Today Is National Orgasm Day and it is Hers to Command

July 31 is National Orgasm Day, but in a Femdom household, that doesn’t mean he gets to cum. It means she gets to decide how he celebrates, and if he even deserves the privilege.

Orgasm Day is the perfect chance to flip the script on pleasure. For Dominant women, it’s a playful, sexy excuse to tease, deny, torment, or reward. For submissive men, it’s a reminder that their orgasm is not a right. It’s a gift. And it should be earned, begged for, or cruelly stolen.

Whether you’re in a long-term FLR or just starting to explore control and surrender, here are some fun, erotic, and deliciously wicked ways to honor Orgasm Day her way.

1. Make Him Earn It

Turn today into a test of obedience. Assign him tasks like cleaning, service, worship, or pain, and let him know he’ll only get to cum if he passes your standards. If he slacks off, whines, or misses a spot? He gets edged instead. Or ruined. Or nothing.

Want to raise the stakes? Let him know you’ll film his performance and rate it later in front of your friends.

2. Tease and Deny

You don’t have to let him cum to celebrate Orgasm Day. In fact, not letting him cum can be the hottest gift of all. Edge him for hours. Tie him down and tease him until he’s begging. Whisper that it’s “National Orgasm Day… for women.” Then smile and walk away.

Want to twist the knife? Make him watch you cum… on camera, in person, or through his own fingers pressed against your vibrator.

3. Chastity Celebration

If he’s locked in chastity, this is his holiday of frustration. Put him on display, cage visible, and tell him it’s his job to serve as others enjoy what he can’t have. Assign him tribute duties like foot massages, lingerie laundry, or tongue service.

You might even let him participate in your orgasm, just not with his cock.

4. Ruined Orgasms Only

If he’s lucky enough to cum today, let it be ruined. Stroke him to the edge, wait for the first pulse, then stop, twist, or squeeze. Watch his eyes as the wave turns into a shudder and dribbles away in agony.

Tell him, “That counts. Happy Orgasm Day.”

5. Celebrate Multiple Orgasms…for You

Declare that your pleasure is the focus today. Have him bring you to orgasm again and again. Tongue, toys, fingers, vibe, his face, his entire day should be dedicated to your satisfaction. Let him see what true sexual power looks like. You, naked and glowing, while he stays aching and empty.

Every time he makes you cum, he gets a new rule added to his submission contract. It’s only fair.

6. Public or Private Rituals

If you’re long-distance, make Orgasm Day a video ritual. Assign him a scene to act out for you. Maybe he humps the couch while reading your erotic writings. Maybe he worships a photo of your feet with his hands bound behind his back.

Make it ceremonial. Make it humiliating. Make it holy.

7. The Orgasm Lottery

Write five potential outcomes on slips of paper: ruin, denial, humiliation, worship, or full release. Put them in a jar. Let him draw one at random after performing a task. But make sure to stack the odds. A true Domme always rigs the game! 😏

8. Give His Orgasm Away

Feeling extra cruel? Invite a friend over. Another Domme, your favorite bull, a lover. Let them decide if he gets to cum. Or worse, let someone else cause his orgasm, while you watch and laugh.

Orgasm Day can be a gift he receives, or one he watches someone else unwrap.

So how will you celebrate?
Whether you grant release, ruin it with a smirk, or keep him locked in desperation, remember: his orgasm is yours to command. And there’s no better day to remind him of that than today.

Happy National Orgasm Day, Mistress. Use it well.

And make sure to come back and share in the comments: how did you celebrate Orgasm Day?