Pussy Worship as a Reward: Motivating Your Sub Through Exclusive Access
Pussy worship is one of the most primal, intoxicating acts in Femdom. At its heart, pussy worship is the practice of a submissive showing adoration, reverence, and devotion to his Domme’s sex. It’s not just oral pleasure, it’s prayer with his tongue. And when you treat it as a reward rather than a given, it becomes an incredibly powerful tool to motivate, train, and tease your submissive.
I’ve learned this with my husband, Zeek. For years, he thought eating my pussy was part of his regular duties, something he’d always have access to if I allowed it. But now, I’ve flipped the script. These days, he has to earn it. Right now, he’s working hard for the chance to taste me again, because I’ve locked him out. He can look, beg, and ache, but he can’t touch with his mouth until I say so.
And lately, I’ve added a wicked twist. Instead of rewarding him, I’ve been inviting other men to their knees. Zeek stands there, pants straining with that obvious bulge, watching another mouth feast on me. Sometimes, I make him hold the camera steady while I moan and pull the other man’s head deeper between my thighs. I just filmed a new friend going down on me, and yes, I plan to release a little clip to our Patreon subs. Zeek was practically trembling behind the lens. His jealousy, his lust, his hunger for permission, it makes the reward all the more powerful when he finally earns it again.
That’s the beauty of pussy worship as a reward, it transforms desire into drive.
How to Apply Pussy Worship as Reward in Your Own Relationship
If you’re curious to try this dynamic, here are ways you can make it work in your own Femdom or FLR relationship.
1. Establish clear rules.
Make it known that pussy worship is not guaranteed. It’s a rare and coveted privilege, not an everyday act. Tell your sub he must earn it through obedience, service, or specific tasks.
2. Use denial to build intensity.
Let him close, let him breathe your scent, let him ache with anticipation, but deny him entry. A simple hand on his forehead to push him back down can send shivers through both of you.
3. Add performance-based goals.
Tie pussy worship directly to his achievements. Maybe he needs to hit the gym three times a week, clean the house spotless, or complete a written task. Each completed goal gets him closer to your thighs.
4. Tease him with visuals.
Let him watch you spread yourself in the mirror, or better yet, show him video clips of others pleasuring you. Watching what he longs to do, and being denied, will have him desperate.
5. Occasionally reward with ritual.
When he does earn it, make it ceremonial. Have him kneel, kiss your thighs, and whisper thanks before tasting you. Draw it out, let him savor every second, so he understands how sacred the privilege is.
6. Play with jealousy.
If you’re comfortable, invite others to taste you while he watches. Or hint at it. Even the thought of another tongue between your legs can light a fire in your sub. His desperation to reclaim that role makes him more obedient than ever.
Advanced Options for the Bold
- Humiliation Layer: Let him lick your juices off another man’s cock after watching him eat you.
- Chastity Integration: Keep him caged while you enjoy pussy worship from others, making the act completely one-sided.
- Task Filming: Order him to record you being pleasured, knowing he won’t get to taste until he’s proven himself worthy.
This isn’t just kinky fun. It’s erotic power. Pussy worship becomes more than pleasure, it becomes the gold standard of reward.
Isn’t pussy worship supposed to be part of his service?
Yes, but turning it into a conditional privilege makes it infinitely more motivating. He’ll serve harder knowing his lips might finally touch you.
What if my sub gets frustrated or resentful?
That’s why communication is key. Explain this is a game of control, not rejection. Balance denial with earned rewards so the tension is pleasurable, not discouraging.
Can I use this without involving other men?
Absolutely. The reward dynamic works perfectly even in monogamous play. The core is denial and exclusivity, not outside partners.
How often should I allow him to earn it?
That depends on your relationship. Some Dommes make it a weekly ritual, others only grant it on special occasions. Inconsistency can actually heighten his devotion.
Sweet Release
By transforming pussy worship into a prize, you turn something he craves into the ultimate currency of your power. Every chore, every task, every obedient gesture suddenly has sharper meaning. He’s not just being good, he’s working toward you, your taste, your approval. And when he finally earns his mouthful of heaven, he’ll know exactly who rules him.
so, duckie fucked up and this article was originally posted under the wrong author, causing some understandable confusion.
when i added it to publication schedule, i selected Mizz Geena instead of Mrs. Annie as the author.
so editorial correction: This article is now correctly attributed to the correct author, Mrs. Annie Strong, Associate Command Domme.
my bad. sorry.
duckie, while you do so much and are usually such a good boy, I can’t help but think you need correction for this – really messing up my very first feature article?!? Not to mention the notes we got about my husband servicing Mizz Geena? Well, he hasn’t had the privilege of doing so yet – but that’s going to change now. I just spoke to Geena, and she’s agreed to arrange a time for Zeek to visit her in the next couple of weeks… and service her.
But he’s also going to take 50 punishment lashings for you, duckie. Mizz Geena is going to administer them as he thanks you for each one.
I’ve already spoken to Nora this morning as well, and she’s agreed – you get a spin of your wheel. Neither of us wants you to make a mistake this monumental again.
Annie – thank you for taking swift action with duckie’s punishment. When it comes to our feature publications I have zero allowance for such ineptitude. He knows better and should have caught his error on his pre-publication reviews. I think your punishments will do well to remind him of his mistake. I’ll take if further and command Zeek to write a blog post describing the punishment session for our readers.
Annie – this is a terrific article, and demonstrates a big power we hold over our subs – access to us. It can be a punishment or a reward! Thank you for sharing!
Phenomenal read, Mrs. Annie.
I adore your prose, and SUPER admire your ability to bring us males to heel.
Reading your piece made me wanna get on my knees…