Q: I am not into pain, but I do love being the plaything of a strong woman. With all the activities seeming to focus mainly on the sexual sensation of the man, I am curious about what makes a woman enjoy being the dominant party in the interaction?

A: For me, I have always had a Dominant personality since I was a child. I was always bossy and had to run the playground. Women in the past had to be submissive to their husbands, bosses, etc, but times have changed. Women are now running corporations,heads of households. We women know that we are dominant inside and feel it.

Q:Hello Mistress, long time reader here. I am absolutely addicted to your site!

I’m a 24 year old male and while I already live a life devoted to the women in my home, I am hoping to become a strong woman’s personal sub someday.

I’m writing because I’ve recently been reviewing my upbringing, first friends and then a therapist has told me that my home life is unhealthy and setting me up for failure. Tell me they are wrong!

I was raised by two women – my two moms. And they were always very open about sex. And that’s where everyone says the problems lie – here are a few examples of what I’m told is ‘wrong’…

First, everyone says that I shouldn’t be living with my moms at my age – but it makes financial sense for one, they need me for another, and I need them! I’m able to save my money and focus on my search for a Domme, so someday I can be hers.

My moms actually introduced me to my first girlfriend when I was 13 – she was 15 and the daughter of one of their friends. I ended up losing my virginity when she very literally took it – and my moms were so proud when I recalled the experience.

I serve my moms – nothing weird or sexual, but I feel a strong desire to attend to their needs. Cleaning, cooking, massages, foot rubs, and more. I find a great satisfaction in them being happy.

My grooming is done by them. I mean, I take my own showers and all that, but one mom cuts my hair and helps me keep manscaped. There’s nothing sexual about it – she’s my mom, and she’s not interested in men. But she does a great job helping me look awesome!

I did receive spankings as punishment for really, really big mistakes growing up. But the first time things changed was the last time that happened. I was over my mom’s lap getting spanked because I’d come home drunk from a party the night before… but then I got hard. She felt it, had me stand up, and yeah, my pants down around my ankles and my pecker standing at attention, I was so embarrassed – then both of them just started laughing and told me to go to my room. Last time I was spanked for punishment.

I like being naked, and they don’t really care, so when at home I am usually clothes free. Another thing I’m told is ‘wrong’ – but I feel right being completly vulnerable.

So I can see how a lot of this probably led me to crave the domination – but is that a problem? Is my life really fucked up and wrong? Isn’t it okay for a man to know from childhood his place as a submissive, devoted to women?

A: You being 24 years old, living with your 2 moms, helping out with chores… there’s nothing wrong with that. My son is 29 years old, moved back in with me because of issues with his roommates wanting to keep moving, and he wanted to stay in one place for a long time. I have lived in my place for over 12 years. He has a job, contributes with rent and bills, also does clean up from time to time.

I love that you have 2 moms. I have raised my son in the Montrose area in Houston, (lgbtqia) area of Houston. My son had alot of friends who had same sex parents. The kids turned out just fine.

I love it that your moms were open about sexuality, just be safe of course with your girlfriends.

Spanking is a common form of old-school discipline, which should be used when necessary. I did spank my son a couple times when he was growing up. He is a respectable, disciplined young man.

Are you happy with your living situation and the way you were raised? People should not judge, give their opinions, or criticize since they didn’t grow up in your house. Hope this helps.

Q: Hello mistress, after 25 years i still can’t stop fantasizing about my GF (girlfriend’s) cheating on me and having MFM with me and other men. I cant undue what my first GF did around 30 or more times. She’d come home and make me reclaim while she jerked me off and told me all about a new lover who was bigger than me… how he felt… how big were her orgasms for him, how they fucked, how she sucked his cock and tasted his cum.

Do i really need to live out these fantasies in order to move on with a normal relationship and marriage? Mistress, can i ever expect to live a normal life after being cheated on so much and i now desire strange group sex and Mfm scenarios? Please help. 

A: I am sorry you had to go through all of that. The only positive thing is that she was open and honest with you, which was still horrible. Maybe you should write her a letter about how much damage she did to you, and the aftermath has affected you. You need to get it out there to clean the air and hopefully make you feel better. Does your current wife/girlfriend know what happened in the past? Also, do you have a therapist? It always helps to speak with a licensed professional. 

Q: I want to know what drives me to want to be in chastity and pegged by a domme. Also how do I go about finding one for hire or otherwise?

A: How long have you felt this way ? Is it consuming your thoughts?

As far as chastity, you can purchase a chastity device that can even be controlled by an online app, as well as one you can purchase in your local adult store. With pegging, always start small with toy play and go from there.

As far as finding a Professional Dominatrix, do your research, make sure the Professional Dominatrix is authentic and not going to scam you. Check their credentials, how many followers they have, how long have they been a Professional Dominatrix? Definitely have a phone conversation with them.

I have been a Professional Dominatrix for over 17 years. I have had a lot of men locked in chastity and offered many toy play/pegging sessions over the years. The only way to get past this, is to just take the next step and try it. Try to get past all your nerves and doubts.