A few weeks ago I decided to talk with a close friend of mine about Femdom, FLR, and submissive men. Originally I was going to unload everything I learned from this amazing site all at once. Then I read Heather’s article, “A Woman’s Guide to Introducing Female Led Relationships to Your Partner”. Even though this wasn’t a partner, but a friend the article made sense and applied to the situation. One thing she stresses is not unloading all at once. From what I’ve been learning this lifestyle is a lot to hear all at once. There are so many different and amazing aspects that you can participate in, or not.

So I started small, told her I found this amazing website. Told her that there are submissive men who realize that they love to serve dominant Women. I told her I joined and started to read as much as I could, and even interacted with a few subs virtually. She of course had questions, and misconceptions. I tried my best to answer them all, and the great part is, if I didn’t know the answer a quick search and we found articles about the topic on the site. She thought that the Woman had to do everything and the man stood in the corner and waited to be called. I informed her that if that’s what she wants she could have that, but most relationships aren’t that strict.

After reading how some households are run she quickly realized that this isn’t a cookie cuter scenario.  That the only constant is the Woman is in charge, and the man does as he’s told. Whether that means he’s naked all the time in the household or can wear clothes but obeys your evey whim. Maybe he wears a collar, or a cage. Maybe he doesn’t look any different, but answers your every need and whim. You make it how you want it.

She couldn’t quite grasp the concept that these men willingly choose to do this. She thought they must be tricked or forced some how. I quickly informed her that the men have a choice. Every day these men choose to serve the Women in their lives. There is a contract, rules, and a choice. No one is forced, or tricked. That the guys have safe words, and restrictions on things they don’t feel comfortable with. The Dommes respect those boundaries and don’t force it, but could respectfully broach the subject and work towards it or modify it to satisfy his objections.

The night was getting late and we had to part ways. She has been scouring the site and we have been sharing posts with each other since our talk. She went from hesitation to wanting to find a man to spank. With his permission of course. She had made quite the leap since we first talked. I am trying to convince her to join the site, but she is content on just stalking rhe pages for now.