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Owned & Collared describes a specific type of power dynamic in which the submissive male, known as the property, voluntarily hands over full control over the most important aspects of his life to another person - his Domme, or Owner. This term is often used to describe a 24/7 dynamic where the male is under constant control of his Domme and may or may not include sexual activities.

The concept of being Owned & Collared can be traced back to ancient times when slavery was a common practice. However, in the Femdom community, it has evolved into a consensual and mutually beneficial arrangement.

At its core, Owned & Collared is a consensual power exchange between a submissive male and a dominant female. The submissive male willingly gives up control and decision-making power to his Domme, who in turn receives the right and responsibility to make decisions on his behalf. This surrender of control can range from simple tasks such as household chores and daily routines, to more intimate aspects such as finances, career choices, and even personal relationships.

Editor's Note

In compiling this glossary of terms related to Femdom activities, it's crucial to acknowledge the evolving sensitivities surrounding the terminology used, particularly when it comes to words like "slavery." While within the context of Femdom dynamics, terms like "sexual slave" or "slave owner" denote a consensual power exchange where individuals voluntarily surrender control, it's essential to recognize the broader societal implications of such language.

The historical connotations of "slavery" are deeply rooted in oppression, exploitation, and the systematic denial of basic human rights. As our collective understanding and sensitivity to these issues continue to evolve, many rightfully advocate for the reconsideration of language that may inadvertently evoke past traumas.

In recognition of this sensitivity, this glossary opts for terms like "owned and collared" and "Owner” and “property" to describe the dynamics of 24/7 Femdom relationships. These terms aim to uphold the essence of the power exchange inherent in such relationships while also demonstrating a respectful acknowledgment of historical pain associated with the term "slavery." It's imperative to navigate this terminology with care, ensuring that it reflects the consensual and respectful nature of Femdom dynamics while also being mindful of the broader societal context.

Dominant Female (Traditional: Slave Owner) = Owner

submissive Male (Traditional: Slave) = property

The Collar: A Symbol of Ownership and Submission

In the world of Femdom, the collar is much more than just a fashionable accessory. It holds a special significance and serves as a powerful symbol of ownership and submission in the dynamic between a Domme and her submissive.

From ancient times to modern-day kink culture, collars have been used to denote ownership and subservience. In some cultures, wearing a collar was a form of punishment or humiliation for slaves. However, in the Femdom community, it takes on a whole new meaning - one that is consensual and deeply rooted in trust and devotion.

For many Dommes, the act of placing a collar around their submissive's neck is both exhilarating and meaningful. It signifies their control over his life, body, and mind. The collar is also often seen as an outward expression of the bond between two individuals in this power exchange relationship. Just like wedding rings represent the union between two partners in a traditional marriage, collars represent the commitment between Domme and her property.

Levels of Control

The level of control in an Owned & Collared relationship varies from couple to couple, and it is up to the individuals involved to decide the terms and boundaries of their dynamic. However, there are some common elements that are often found in these relationships, such as:

Total Control: In an Owned & Collared relationship, the Domme has complete control over the property's life. This includes not only his actions but also his thoughts and emotions. The property's sole purpose is to serve and please his Domme, and she has the final say in all matters.

Obedience and Discipline: Obedience is a fundamental aspect of an Owned & Collared relationship. The property must obey all commands and instructions given by his Domme without question. Failure to do so may result in discipline, which can range from a simple scolding to more severe forms of punishment.

Service and Devotion: The property's primary role in an Owned & Collared dynamic is to serve and please his Domme. This can take many forms, such as performing household chores, running errands, giving massages, or even acting as a footstool. The property's devotion to his Domme is essential, and he must strive to fulfill her every desire and need.

Consensual Non-Consent: In an Owned & Collared relationship, the Domme has the power to make decisions on behalf of her property. This may include activities that the property may not necessarily enjoy, but he consents to them for the pleasure and satisfaction of his Domme. This concept is known as consensual non-consent and is a crucial aspect of this dynamic.

Rules and Rituals: To maintain the power dynamic and structure of an Owned & Collared relationship, there are often rules and rituals that the property must follow. These can range from specific protocols for daily tasks to more elaborate rituals for special occasions. These rules and rituals serve as a reminder of the property's place in the dynamic and reinforce the power exchange between the Domme and her property.