Sex Positivity in Practice
by Mizz Geena | Feb 19, 2026 |
In my recent article, Sex Positivity Under Female Authority, I wrote about what it really means to embrace sexuality without shame, without apology, and without losing structure. Sex positivity is not chaos. It is not indulgence without boundaries. Under female authority, it becomes something intentional, powerful, and deeply transformative.
As part of my new personal sub scrappy’s training, I decided to give him a lesson in surrender that did not involve restraint or impact. Instead, it involved permission. I sent him out with instructions to have as much uncontrolled sex as possible. The objective was not pleasure alone. It was to dissolve ego, to remove performance anxiety, and to push him into a space where he stopped trying to impress and simply allowed himself to be used.
Seattle has an excellent members-only club that prioritizes safety. Regular testing, clear consent culture, and a strong emphasis on sex-positive exploration make it an ideal training ground. Crowded sex parties are not really my scene these days, so I did not attend myself. Instead, I sent my friend Ruby along with thing2 to supervise.
Ruby understood the assignment. I told her I wanted scrappy engaging with as many women as possible, especially those interested in pegging and dominant play. The point was not to center him. The point was to place him in situations where he would be guided, directed, and sometimes overwhelmed in the best possible way.
There is something incredibly instructive about being desired, used, and then dismissed, over and over again, under clear structure. It teaches humility. It teaches endurance. And most importantly, it teaches that surrender can be expansive rather than diminishing.
Sex positivity, when led with intention, is a tool. And scrappy is learning exactly how to wield it by giving up control completely.
I love that this is not only sex-positive, but non-possessive! One of the things I enjoy about the lifestyle is how rare possessiveness is. Within the bounds of an agreed-upon dynamic, of course.