This past week marked the beginning of my intentional search, and it offered clarity faster than I expected. I rejected every application that came in.

• I had two dates scheduled. One ghosted. One catfished.
• I met one person in the wild. He was confident, slightly aggressive, and persuasive enough that I chose to explore the possibility of a connection. But when it came time for substance, his answers were lazy. When I asked meaningful questions, he stayed on the surface. And when I asked the most important one, why do you want to serve me, his answer was simple. Because I am beautiful, and that response told me everything.

If your interest in me begins and ends with my appearance, then what you are seeking is sex, fantasy, or novelty. There is nothing wrong with that. It is just not what I am building. I am not interested in kink as roleplay alone or kink as entertainment. I am interested in intentional power dynamics. control that is earned and rooted in trust. In total power exchange, built on curiosity, devotion, discipline, and growth. I want someone who wants to learn from me, not consume me. Someone who finds meaning in service, not just stimulation.

What this week made clear is how rare alignment actually is. Most people are looking for kink as sex, play, or fantasy. That is valid. It is simply not what I am seeking. I am looking for depth. For intellectual stimulation. For a dynamic that challenges and changes both people involved. One rooted in power, trust, and intentional exchange.

This week has been tiring and at times, discouraging. But it sharpened my standards rather than weakening them. This work is slow. It requires discernment and patience. I am not willing to lower my expectations to make the process easier.

I do have a date tonight. We met on Tinder. He knows who I am and what I am exploring. He is my age, attractive, and new to kink but curious. Curiosity matters to me. I do not yet know whether his interest is novelty or genuine.  I am committed to doing this intentionally. And I am committed to doing it right. If you’re in or near Michigan and would like to be considered, please fill out this application.

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