My family doesn’t know about my other work. Nothing about the dominatrix side of my life. Let’s just say their conservative hearts would probably explode if they found out—leaving nothing behind but thoughts & prayers. Combined with Cody’s and my determination to keep our kids completely separate from all of it, we live a bit of a double life. And that can get tricky when those worlds start to overlap.
I need to travel this weekend for duckie’s punishment ceremony, and Cody was set to watch the kids. But, of course, his job decided to be ridiculous, requiring him onsite all day Saturday, plus an early Monday meeting. Our only family nearby is my parents, who babysit often, but my dad’s off on a fishing trip, and my mom isn’t up for wrangling the kids alone.
So, we hired a babysitter.
She’s great—college student, studying education, fantastic references. We coordinated with Cody’s schedule, and everything was set. I was feeling so good about this. Two whole nights away. Everything handled.
Then last night, I got curious.
I started sleuthing through her social media, just to get a better feel for her. And that’s when I saw his face.
Her father.
I know him. I know him well.
We met at a BDSM event. He booked a private session with me. Six hours. Submitted fully. It was transactional and professional. And, judging by his experience level, definitely not his first time with a dominatrix.
Now, I’m stuck.
It feels like I should cancel, but I really need this trip. The odds of him recognizing me now that I’m connected to his daughter on Facebook? Hard to say. But it’s a risk I’m going to take. Cody’s not thrilled—he definitely thinks I should cancel—but ultimately, when it comes to the kids, he gives his advice, then defers to me.
I’m checking with a few other sitters, but none of them have the credentials she does. So for now, And honestly, I don’t like the thought of “punishing” her by firing her, simply because her father has submitted to me. From what I can tell, her mother passed away when she was a baby, and he looks to be unmarried, so I don’t even believe that he was cheating – he simply was indulging in his kink, which is awesome.
We just don’t want our worlds to collide. I think I’m safe, so I’m rolling the dice.
Oh my goodness, this is so similar to my group: kids growing up, some away in college, a few still active high-schoolers. It definitely made our get-togethers less frequent – completely irregular actually – and we have kept the sex apart from the kids. But:
1 – attitudes and basic behaviors are 24/7 and clearly apparent to them. Can’t be hidden. When willm they realize, on their own, that there’s more to it?
2 – So, the Ladies and I have kicked it around for years yet remain at an impasse because our FLRs have been so fulfilling, both for us and the boys. Our kids deserve to have what we have had, don’t they? krissi’s upbringing made him the kind of man he is (I told Mizz Geena in the interview that his mother shared with me one day her view of penises and also the little nugget: “boys have no private parts.”) … a topic for a book.
Oh Meghan, I missed this comment I guess.
I enjoy the “boys have no private parts” and that should be policy for any man who enters the realm of a Domme! Perhaps that’s why Cody is very careful about any friends he might introduce to me.
Wow, what a predicament! I read this with empathy, compassion, fascination, and arousal. So many simultaneous thoughts…
Your conservative family remind me of some of the people in my life, and they too would be shocked, if they knew my sexually submissive persona. The “thoughts and prayers” phrase really resonated — triggered a bit of bile, if I’m being honest. But I’ll leave that subject alone for now, as I could rant for half an hour.
Also fascinating is the vague imagery that enters my head as I think of a “punishment ceremony!”
Since I’m saying all this weeks after You published Your comments, I hope it all went smoothly.
Most of all, I find myself fantasizing and SO CURIOUS to know more about the college-age babysitter, and her father who fully submitted to You for six hours! (That’s longer than the longest sessions I’ve had with a Domme in person.) For one thing, there’s such FEMALE POWER in this story!… in Your knowing!… in the father being precariously positioned between the powerful Domme who could destroy him, if She wished to… and the educated young Lady who doesn’t realize She is working for the Lady who dominated her dad!… but who might also be fascinated, for all we know, to learn how to dominate males, Herself!! Perhaps from the very professional who dominated her father! It’s such a complex dynamic, and I feel for You, Mistress Heather, as well as for either of them, if anything terribly embarrassing has been revealed since Your post. I confess I also partly envy You, the potential You have to affect their lives! I sit here, half naked, longing to know more! In his shoes, I suspect *I* would recognize, on Facebook, any of the Ladies who have professionally filled *me* with shame and pain. But perhaps he’s like me, and doesn’t use the platform.
I’m too new here to know who Cody is. I’m guessing Your slave and/or husband.
Hopefully I haven’t rambled too long, especially since I’m so new here and You don’t know me. I’ll just end by saying I love this comment. It shows integrity and compassion, and frankly, is damn sexy, too: “From what I can tell, her mother passed away when she was a baby, and he looks to be unmarried, so I don’t even believe that he was cheating – he simply was indulging in his kink, which is awesome.”
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