Would I Stud Out One of My Boys?
by Mizz Geena | Jul 7, 2025 |
This was a legit question I got a couple of years ago.
A friend came to visit, and she had an interesting proposal… not for herself, but for her best friend. This woman was ready to start her family. She didn’t have a partner, didn’t want one, and wanted to do it the natural way. Her request? A male who would follow instructions, provide what she needed, and walk away afterward. No strings, no co-parenting. Just a willing, obedient sperm donor.
She asked if thing2 would be available for this arrangement. She’d handle everything… travel, timing, even accommodations. The sessions would take place during her fertile window, and continue for up to three months or until she got pregnant. In return, she’d make a generous contribution to thank him for his time.
Thing2 was eager. She made it clear he would sign away all parental rights. She lived across the country, and he’d never be involved. Half the money would go into his savings, the rest could help with household expenses. Tempting, sure.
But in the end, I said no. Too many emotional landmines. Too many ways it could go sideways. And even though I control a lot around here, life has a way of reminding me that you can’t control everything.
Still, I wonder. Was it a missed opportunity? And sometimes I joke… what if I did open up a little business studding out my boys? I could build a nationwide network. Just kidding.
Probably.
I think to be studded out is acknowledgement of a subs journey in that they have great understanding of their place.
oh wow. yeah, we could turn that into a business idea…
You made the right decision. Sex is never totally functional. Takes TWO and emotion can never be completely removed. And, even more important, in this case a third person was the most important part – indeed the original reason and potentially, downstream, a casus belli. Nothing about a child is EVER judged casually and, in my estimation, nothing might ever be potentially more entangling. IMO, you chose wisely.