8 Steps to Train His Hands for Worship

There is nothing quite like watching a man tremble under the weight of your presence. And nothing quite as delicious as teaching him, slowly, precisely, how he is allowed to touch you. Where. When. How long. With what pressure. With what intention.

Because let’s be clear: a submissive’s hands are not his own. Not when he’s yours. They are instruments of your pleasure, your comfort, your worship. And if he’s going to be allowed the honor of putting them on your body, he damn well better know how to use them.

I don’t care how long you’ve been together. Every submissive needs to be taught how to touch a Domme. It’s not something he “figures out.” It’s not his right to guess. It is a gift you give him, one fingertip at a time.

This is how I teach my boys to worship me with their hands.

Step One: The Initial Denial

Before we get into any training, I want you to remember this: what is earned is treasured. So don’t let him touch you right away.

In fact, take it away completely.

Let his hands hover. Let them ache. Strip him of the assumption that touching you is allowed. Watch what happens when he reaches and you say, “No.” Watch his whole body stutter with yearning. That’s the baseline we begin from. That’s hunger. That’s attention. And that’s where worship starts.

Step Two: Hands Behind His Back

This is one of my favorite positions for early body worship.

Tell him to strip. Then command him to kneel. His hands should be behind his back, fingers laced or wrists clasped. No restraints, yet. Just discipline.

Walk slowly around him. Let your bare thigh brush his shoulder. Let your scent be his only intoxication. And when you pause in front of him, place your hand gently under his chin and whisper:
“You want to touch me?”
Make him say it. Make him say why.

Now you’re in control. Not just of your body, but of his desire.

Step Three: Demonstrate the Difference Between Touch and Worship

Here’s a sensual truth: most men know how to grope, but very few know how to worship.

So you show him.

Lay back. Keep your eyes locked on him as you run your own fingers down your skin. Over your collarbone. Between your breasts. Let your fingers linger. Caress. Breathe. Moan softly when you reach a spot that pleases you. You’re not putting on a show for him… you’re modeling reverence.

Then stop. Sit up. And say:

“Now let’s see if you’ve learned anything.”

Step Four: One Body Part at a Time

Don’t let him rush. Don’t let him wander. Don’t let him assume.

His training begins with a single body part. Maybe it’s your feet. Maybe it’s your stomach. Maybe you want to watch him stroke the length of your thighs until he’s lightheaded with reverence.

Pick one. Then direct him with precision.

• “Use both hands.”
• “Just fingertips. Slower.”
• “No. Do it again.”
• “Imagine you’re painting my skin.”

Keep your tone steady, unhurried, assured. This is not a moment of chaos. This is ritual. You are sculpting his movements into something worthy of your body.

Step Five: Add Restrictions

Once he understands how to touch, start layering in what isn’t allowed.

• “You may not touch my nipples.”
• “Keep your hands below my waist.”
• “You must ask before you move to a new area.”

This deepens the obedience. Now he’s not just touching you, he’s thinking, hesitating, asking, aching.

And don’t underestimate the erotic charge of saying: “Stop.”
Hold up one hand.
Watch his muscles freeze.
Let him panic just a little, wondering what he did wrong.

Then smile. Say softly: “That was perfect. I just want to feel the heat of your hands missing me for a minute.”

Step Six: Sensory Feedback

Touch is not just physical… It’s emotional, sensual, electric. So teach him to listen to your reactions.

Do you inhale? Arch? Moan?

Or do you stay quiet?

Explain the difference. Tell him: “If I go silent, it means you lost me.” Let him learn to read your body the way a musician reads sheet music. With care, nuance, and skill.

Step Seven: Take It All Away

At some point, when he’s getting good, you must take it all away again. Suddenly. Without warning.

“No hands tonight.”

He’ll be crushed. Good.

Let him realize how precious the permission was. Let his hands twitch with need while you undress in front of him. While you bathe. While you sleep nude and unbothered beside him.

You are not punishing him. You are cultivating gratitude.

Step Eight: Introduce Worship Tasks

Now that he’s been trained, you can begin assigning tasks. These aren’t random. They’re rituals of devotion.

• “Massage my feet every night before bed.”
• “Every Sunday, you’ll wash and moisturize my entire body.”
• “Your job is to keep my thighs soft. That means you lotion them. Every morning.”

Tie these duties to his training. Let him feel pride. Let him feel fear. Let him know it can be taken away.

He should never forget that every inch of you is sacred—and he’s lucky to be allowed to serve.

Touch Is a Privilege, Not a Right

You are not something he gets to figure out. You are a map, and only you hold the key. His hands don’t wander—they serve. His touch doesn’t take—it offers. He is not entitled to your body. He is being invited into a ceremony.

Train him right, and every time he lays hands on you, it will feel like prayer.

And every time you deny him, it will feel like the world has ended.

Just the way I like it.