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Struggling to word this one, but yes! Us men are useless about talking, or at least about the things that are affecting us, impacting us. Speaking for myself too, i’m quite the loner, certainly dont have any friends i’d consider ‘inner circle’ sort of tell anything type friends. So for many many years, i kept it in, ocassionally my emotions bubbled out and I could take a mild arguement and added emotions and blow it up ten fold.
I have got better certainly in the last 6-12 months, working on how to lower the guard, be vulerable, talk to my wife more about those real issues. I’ve also started my hand at journalling a little too, just to put words down that I might not be ready to speak. I do certainly feel less burden, worry, and less stress as a result so cannot stress enough how important it is to find an outlet, written or spoken, someone close or even a stranger. It helps!
Although this isn’t applicable to just men, we have that social perception that feelings are weak, being emotional is weakness, certainly in a dom/sum relationship you may be best placed to spot those behaviour changes, when something might be being held back. Or be in a position to create a safe space to talk.
The strongest submissive men have their emotions in check and in fact, possess a high emotional intelligence. I’m glad to hear you’re making a concerted effort to communicate more not just with your wife, but with yourself though journaling.
Thank you Miss Jessica, I think the main thing for me was getting past the point in my head where keeping my problems in was the better option. It rarely if ever was better, sometimes that extra mind, different view, or team work approach is what’s needed.
I do have some parts of me that I’m not able to share or specifically talk about (yet?) but this is where writing it down helped under Mizz Geena’s encouragement.