The Femdom Glossary

The effects of prolonged edging and orgasm denial are torturous for the sub, as sexual tension and arousal mount to excruciating levels in his genitals. The constant agony is known as blue balls, a condition that leaves the sub’s testicles swollen and tender from being denied release. A sadistic femdom takes pleasure in intensifying this suffering by unleashing brutal blows and crushing grips on the his vulnerable and swolen balls.

Body modification is the practice of permanently altering one’s physical appearance through the use of tattoos, piercings, and other forms of body art. In the world of Femdom, body modification takes on a whole new level of meaning as it becomes a powerful tool for dominatrices to exert control and ownership over their male submissives.

Nestled at the alluring intersection of Femdom Fashion and the Foot Fetish lies the tantalizing world of Boot Fetish. Here, the Domme’s weapon of choice is her tall, black thigh-high boots, exuding a commanding power that leaves the sub weak in the knees. The mere sight of these intimidating yet seductive footwear ignites a fiery desire within the sub, surrendering to the dominant allure of their Mistress’s boots.

Breathplay is a form of BDSM play that involves the dominant woman controlling her submissive’s breath in order to create intense sensations of pleasure, pain, or both. In femdom scenarios, breathplay is used to assert dominance and control over the sub, as well as to enhance their experience of submission.

In a Cuckolding scene, the Bull is the other male in the dominant threesome. Traditionally depicted as an Aplha Male with a dominant demeanor, the Bull remains under the control of the Cuckoldress, his power during the session dictated by her..

Caning is a form of corporal punishment that involves striking the submissive with a thin, flexible cane. It is often seen as a more severe and intense form of punishment, as the cane can leave welts and marks on the submissive’s skin. The Dominant can control the intensity of the caning by varying the force and speed of the strikes, making it a versatile tool for punishment or pleasure. Caning can also be combined with other forms of play, such as role-playing, where the submissive is punished for their “misbehavior” by the strict and unforgiving Dominant.

CBT (Cock and Ball Torture) is a form of BDSM play where the male genitals, specifically the penis and testicles, are the focus of physical and psychological stimulation. This can include a wide range of activities such as squeezing, slapping, tying, piercing, stretching, and more. CBT is a favorite among many femdoms as it allows them to assert their power and dominance over their submissive male partners in a unique and intense way.

CEI or Cum Eating Instruction is a popular practice within femdom dynamics where the dominatrix takes control and instructs the submissive or “sub” to consume their own semen after ejaculation. This may include licking it off their own body or being forced to swallow it directly from the source.

Femdom Chastity is a practice in which the female dominant holds complete control over the male submissive’s sexual pleasure by locking his penis in a chastity cage. This act of consensual power exchange allows the dominatrix to dictate when and if the submissive is allowed to experience sexual release.

Communication is the cornerstone of any successful femdom relationship or scene. It is the key to building trust, establishing boundaries, and ensuring the physical and emotional safety of all parties involved. Without open and honest communication, a femdom dynamic can quickly become toxic and damaging.

Consent is an essential aspect of any femdom relationship or scene. It is the act of giving permission for a specific action or activity. In femdom, consent is more than just a yes or no answer. It is an ongoing process that involves continuous communication and mutual understanding between the dominant and submissive. 

In a femdom relationship, it is common for both the dominant and submissive to enter into a contract or agreement outlining the terms and expectations of the dynamic. This can be a helpful tool for establishing clear communication and understanding of each other’s boundaries. 

In a Cuckolding scenario, the Cuck or Cuckold is the submissive male who will watch, or even participate, as the Alpha Male Bull has sex with his wife/girlfriend/partner.

In a Cuckolding session, the dominant woman is the Cuckoldress. She commands both men and decides how the session will play out. 

A tantalizing technique often used in orgasm denial is known as “cum countdown.” The Domme sets a specific time limit, heightening the pressure and urgency for her submissive to achieve his release before it’s too late. As she slowly counts down, from ten to one, in a seductive and teasing tone, he races against the clock to shoot his load before being denied. The mounting anticipation and pressure can be overwhelming, leaving the submissive desperate for release. And for those who are able to reach their climax in time, the satisfaction is incredibly rewarding. But for those who fall short, the added element of humiliation can add an unexpected twist of excitement to the experience.

Cunninglingus, also known as oral servitude, is a term that refers to the act of performing oral sex on a woman. In the world of Femdom, it is a form of sexual submission in which a man uses his mouth, tongue, and lips to pleasure his dominant partner’s most intimate area. This act of submission is an essential aspect of Femdom relationships and is highly valued by dominant women. Cunninglingus becomes a symbol of submission and worship, a way for the submissive man to express his devotion and adoration for his dominant partner.

A variation of the traditional ball-gag, the dildo gag features a phallic attachment protruding from the male’s mouth. This allows him to please his mistress with more than just his tongue or fingers. The act can be both sensual and humiliating, as the male not only loses the ability to speak but also has his mouth reduced to a mere tool for his dominant female’s pleasure. He becomes little more than a sextoy, obediently bobbing his head to slide the face penis in and out of his dominatrix’s pussy with each thrust. It is a physical manifestation of his submission, completely surrendering himself to her control and desires.

Distance FemDomination, also known as long distance or remote FemDomination, is a form of BDSM in which a dominant female exerts control and dominance over a submissive male through communication technologies such as phone, video chat, texting, and other virtual platforms. This type of FemDomination has gained popularity in recent years due to the widespread use of technology and the growing demand for alternative forms of domination. With the rise of online communication, dominatrices have been able to expand their client base and dominate submissive men from all corners of the world.

Double Domination, also known as “dual domination” or “double Domme,” is a popular subset of group Femdom. This involves one male being dominated by two or more women, with each Domme taking turns or working together to control and tease their submissive. This dynamic can create a powerful and intense experience for the submissive, as they are outnumbered and completely at the mercy of their Dominants.

The essence of orgasm denial lies in the tantalizing concept of edging, also known as Tease & Denial. Edging is a devious game of bringing him to the brink of ecstasy, only to abruptly halt and deny his release. This wickedly delightful practice can be repeated over and over again, drawing out the anticipation and intensifying the pleasure with each teasing pause.

Also known as electrical play or e-stim, electro play is a Femdom activity that involves using electricity to stimulate the body and create intense sensations. It is a type of sensation play that can range from mild tingling to intense shocks, providing a fun, sadistic pleasure for the Dominatrix, while invoking enjoyment or fear by her submissives.

Femdom Fashion describes the clothing and accessories worn by a dominatrix, or female dominant, in the practice of femdom (female domination). These items of clothing not only fulfill the practical purpose of covering the body, but also serve to enhance the dominant persona and fulfill a variety of kinky fetishes and fantasies for both the dominatrix and her submissive.

This is an event where multiple Dommes and subs come together to socialize, play, and explore their fetishes and kinks. These parties can range from small, intimate gatherings to large events with dozens of attendees.

Findom (Financial Domination) refers to a form of BDSM where a dominant woman exercises control over a submissive’s finances. In this dynamic, the submissive derives pleasure and satisfaction from giving money, gifts, or financial control to the dominant, often as an expression of his submission and devotion.

Forced Intox, also known as Coerced Intox, is a popular FemDom fetish in which the dominant partner, referred to as the Domme, instructs the submissive partner, known as the sub, to consume alcohol or marijuana during a BDSM session. This fetish is derived from the power dynamic of dominance and submission, where the Domme holds complete control over the sub’s actions and decisions, including their level of intoxication.

The act of golden showers, also known as “watersports” or “piss play,” is a highly taboo and controversial practice in the realm of BDSM and female domination. It involves the Domme urinating on the male, either directly onto his body or into his mouth, for the purpose of humiliation, degradation, and submission. While some may see it as a disgusting and degrading act, to those who engage in it, golden showers can be an incredibly intimate and powerful form of domination and submission.

Height humiliation is a form of physical humiliation where the Domme uses the height difference between them and male to assert their dominance and embarrass the submissive. This can take various forms, such as making the submissive kneel or sit at the their feet, enabling her to tower over him, or forcing him to look up at their dominant partner from a lower position.

In the world of Femdom, humiliation reigns supreme as a powerful tool used by the Dominatrix to assert her control and dominance over the submissive. Through various techniques, the Dominatrix seeks to embarrass or degrade their submissive, ultimately leading to a deep sense of submission and power exchange. This can manifest in both physical and psychological forms, ranging from playful teasing to intense degradation, each tailored to suit the desires and boundaries of those involved. The experience is a delicate dance between power and vulnerability, as the submissive willingly surrenders themselves to their dominant counterpart, finding release and fulfillment in their chosen role.

JOI, or Jerk Off Instructions, is a powerful technique used by Femdoms to control and manipulate their submissive male. As the name suggests, it involves giving instructions to the sub on how to pleasure himself, usually through masturbation. However, JOI is not just about giving simple instructions, but it is a complex and multifaceted form of domination that can be used to humiliate, punish, and reward the sub.

Milking, a cruel and torturous practice in the realm of Femdom, involves relentless stimulation of a submissive male until he is drained completely, both physically and mentally. The Domme takes pleasure in manipulating the male’s body, using techniques such as stimulating his vulnerable G-spot or binding him with restraints to ensure complete submission. Toys designed for maximum torment are introduced, relentlessly stroking and teasing the male’s penis until he is reduced to a quivering mess. The sub endures this humiliating ordeal, all while knowing he is merely being used for the Domme’s sadistic pleasure.

A type of FemDom fetish where the Domme uses psychological manipulation and control to dominate and tease Her sub. The term “mind fuck” refers to the intense and overwhelming experience of having one’s thoughts and emotions toyed with and twisted by the Domme.

Mistress Kiss is a form of humiliation where the Domme spits into the mouth of her submissive. This act is often seen as degrading and can be a powerful source of humiliation for the submissive, as it forces him to swallow the saliva of his Dominatrix.

Orgasm Control is a potent and all-consuming tool utilized in femdom sessions to assert absolute control and dominance over her submissive. With every touch and tease, he is brought to the brink of orgasm only to have it cruelly snatched away, leaving him throbbing with unfulfilled desire. This sadistic technique not only inflicts physical agony but also plays mind games, intensifying the pleasure and pain. It’s no wonder why this method is a popular choice among skilled femdoms who relish in their power over others.

One of the most powerful aspects of orgasm control is when a dominant partner denies their submissive’s release entirely. This tantalizing practice, known as “orgasm denial,” can be used as a form of sadistic fun or punishment. In this scenario, the Domme holds complete power over the sub’s pleasure, withholding his ultimate release until she deems it appropriate. It becomes an act of mind control, as the sub’s sole focus becomes pleasing his Domme and earning the privilege of his orgasm. For truly sadistic Dommes, they may withhold their approval for hours, even extending beyond the session and lasting for days on end. The anticipation and longing for release can build to a frenzied state, making his eventual orgasm all the more intense.

OTK (Over The Knee) spanking is a specific type of spanking that involves the submissive being positioned across the Dominant’s lap, with their bottom exposed and vulnerable. This position not only allows for easy access to the submissive’s buttocks but also creates a sense of intimacy and power exchange. The submissive is forced to submit to the Dominant’s control, while the Dominant can easily administer spankings of varying intensity and rhythm. This type of spanking can invoke a sense of being punished as a young child might. OTK spankings can be combined with other forms of play, such as verbal humiliation or nipple play, to enhance the overall experience for both partners.

Outdoor Femdom refers to the practice of engaging in female dominance and submission activities in outdoor settings. This practice can involve a variety of activities and dynamics, all taking place in open, natural, or public spaces, adding an element of risk and excitement to the Femdom experience.

In a Owned & Collared dynamic, the Dominant Female is the one who holds power and control over the submissive male, known as “property,” who has willingly given control of his life to her.

Pantyhose, or tights, are a staple in femdom fashion. They not only add an element of sensuality and femininity to the dominatrix’s attire, but also serve as a powerful tool in domination. The tightness and sheerness of pantyhose emphasize the curves of the legs and accentuate the length and strength of the dominatrix’s limbs. This can evoke feelings of submission and vulnerability in the submissive, making them more willing to submit to the dominatrix’s commands.

The femdom experience doesn’t always come to an end with orgasm. In fact, it can continue long after the sub has released. This intense and tantalizing part of the experience is known as “post orgasm torture,” where the sub’s cock and balls are stimulated even after he’s cum. It’s a delicate dance between pleasure and pain, often used as punishment for being too quick to shoot his load or as a form of teasing and denial.

In an Owned & Collared dynamic, the submissive male relinquishes control of his life to his Owner or Domme. He is considered the property of his dominant partner.

Public Femdom refers to the practice of dominant women exerting their power and control over submissive individuals in a public setting. This can take place in various settings such as restaurants, bars, clubs, and even on the streets. It involves the use of humiliation, physical domination, and verbal commands to express a dominant woman’s authority over her submissive partner.

Punishment is a common term used in femdom activities and relationships, and refers to the act of inflicting consequences on a submissive or slave for their disobedience, misbehavior, or failure to meet expectations. It is a crucial aspect of power exchange relationships, as it serves to reinforce the power dynamic between the dominant and the submissive, while also providing a means of behavior modification and fulfilling specific fetishes.

Pussy worship is a way for a submissive man to show his reverence and devotion to his Domme’s most sacred area. As he kisses, licks, and sucks on her pussy, he is not just providing her with pleasure, but also worshipping her as a Goddess. He understands that her pleasure is his pleasure and takes great pride in being able to bring her to the brink of ecstasy.

Pussy worship can also involve the use of hands and fingers, as a submissive man explores every inch of his dominant partner’s vulva and clitoris. He may also use toys or implements, with his dominant partner’s permission, to enhance her pleasure and submission. For a dominant woman, the act of pussy worship can be incredibly arousing as she sees her submissive partner submit to her desires and do everything in his power to ensure her pleasure.

Queening, also known as Facesitting, is a deliciously dominant act where a powerful woman asserts her dominance by sitting on her submissive’s face. As the name suggests, the submissive is made to lay on his back while the dominant woman takes a seat on his face, effectively restricting his movements and making him completely at her mercy.

The idea of a “ruined orgasm” revolves around deliberately denying a male submissive a fully satisfying release. This can be achieved through various methods, such as bringing him to the edge of climax and then abruptly stopping all stimulation, resulting in a partial release but not a true orgasm. For more sadistic individuals, there are even more excruciating techniques, like slapping his exposed cock and balls right at the peak of pleasure, turning his ecstasy into agony. Another approach is to pinch his throbbing member at the moment of ejaculation, disrupting the natural flow and causing a frustrating and unsatisfying climax. This practice can serve as both punishment for disobedience or as a means of intensifying the sub’s desire and arousal.

A critical part of Discipline, Femdom rules are a set of guidelines and expectations that the dominant woman establishes for her submissives to follow. These rules may cover various aspects of the submissives’ lives, including but not limited to, behavior, appearance, communication, and conduct.

Safewords are a vital aspect of communication in femdom relationships and scenes. They are a predetermined word or phrase that allows the submissive to communicate their physical or emotional boundaries to the dominant during an activity. Safewords are essential because they provide a clear and direct way for the submissive to communicate when they are experiencing discomfort, pain, or need to stop an activity for any reason. 

Sensory deprivation is a term used frequently in the world of Femdom, and it is one that holds immense power and potential for both the Dominant and the submissive. It refers to the practice of restricting or limiting the senses of a submissive in order to intensify their experience of submission and surrender. This can take various forms, from blindfolding and earplugs to full body restraints and sensory deprivation chambers. Regardless of the method, sensory deprivation is a powerful tool that can unlock new levels of vulnerability, trust, and ecstasy in a Femdom dynamic.

A service sub is a male submissive dedicated to performing service tasks for his Domme, typically involving domestic servitude. In the Femdom community, service subs act as butlers, maids, chauffeurs, and housekeepers, tending to their Domme’s home and needs with utmost dedication. Their purpose is to serve and anticipate their Domme’s desires, finding fulfillment in these acts of service.

In the world of femdom, shiny clothing is synonymous with power and dominance. The tightness and sheen of these plastic clothes made from polyvinyl chloride (PVC), polyurethane or similar man made materials, accentuates the curves of the female body, making the dominatrix appear even more intimidating and alluring. The dominance-submission dynamic is heightened when the submissive is clad in leather or shiny clothing as it symbolizes their surrender to the dominatrix’s control.

Small Penis Humiliation, or SPH, is a form of humiliation often used to degrade and belittle the male based on the size of his penis. This can take various forms, such as the Domme mocking and ridiculing the size of the his penis, or using it as a source of humiliation during sexual activities.

Smoking is a common element in femdom breathplay, as it adds an extra layer of sensory stimulation and control. Whether it’s cigarettes, cigars, or even marijuana, smoking can be used in a variety of ways to enhance the breathplay experience.

Smothering is a form of breathplay in femdom scenarios where the domme using her body parts, such as her breasts, pussy, or ass, to cover the sub’s face and restrict their breathing. This can range from mild suffocation, where the sub can still breathe through their nose, to complete smothering, where they are completely deprived of oxygen.

Sounding, also known as urethral sounding, is a practice in which a thin, flexible rod or probe is inserted into the urethra, the tube that carries urine from the bladder to the external genitals. It has been used for centuries in medical settings for therapeutic purposes, but in recent years, it has gained popularity in the BDSM community, particularly in the realm of femdom.

Used in Pegging, the Strapon is a harness that is usually worn around the waist with straps to hold it in place and supports a dildo at the crotch, ready for use. However, there are various configurations of strapons available – some even strap onto other body parts. And when it comes to dildos, there are endless options for a Dominatrix to choose from and personalize according to her tastes.

This refers to a group of submissives who are all under the control of one dominant woman, also known as a “Dominatrix pack.” This dynamic is often seen in BDSM communities, where a Dominatrix may have several subs who serve her in various ways.

Submissive training is the process of teaching and guiding a submissive to fully embrace his role and to serve his Mistress. It is an essential aspect of a healthy and consensual power exchange dynamic, where the submissive male willingly surrenders control to the dominant woman and commits to their service and obedience. This training focuses on developing the submissive’s mindset, communication, and skills to effectively serve their dominant partner and fulfill their desires and needs.

A form of Orgasm Control in which the Domme exerts her dominance by bringing the submissive male close to orgasm but denying him release. See Edging and Orgasm Denial.

The Toilet fetish and golden showers are forms of humiliation where the Domme uses her bodily functions to humiliate and degrade the male. This can take various forms, such as making the submissive act as a toilet or receiving her urine as a form of degradation.

In this ball-busting technique, the dominatrix steps on the sub’s testicles with her feet, applying pressure and causing pain. This can be done while the sub is lying down or on his hands and knees.

Verbal humiliation is a common form of humiliation where the Domme uses her words to belittle, degrade, and embarrass the male. This can take various forms, such as name-calling, mocking, or using degrading language to refer to the submissive.

Virgin humiliation is a form of humiliation where the Domme uses the male’s lack (or perceived lack) of sexual experience to humiliate and degrade him. This can take various forms, such as mocking and belittling him for his lack of sexual knowledge or using his virginity as a source of humiliation during sexual activities.

Weight humiliation is a form of physical and psychological humiliation where the Domme uses the male’s weight or body size to humiliate and degrade him. This can take various forms, such as making the male feel inadequate or unattractive because of his weight or using it as a source of humiliation during sexual activities.