A Domme’s Halloween Anniversary: Recommitment, Pain, and Pleasure in One Night
Dear Mizz Geena,
Halloween is special day – two years ago, we were married. I was a new attorney, a 2nd year at the law firm. He had just graduated from college when we met, and it was a whirlwind romance. One thing was clear – he was completely devoted to me. Fast forward, we’re coming up on our 2-year anniversary, and things have sort of fizzled in the whole devotion dept. Don’t get me wrong, we still have mad, passionate love, but his career took off – amazingly. He’s smart, he invented a solution to a big problem, and he is going places.]
So here’s what I want to do on our anniversary, this Halloween: A Re-committment Ceremony. We’ve already decided that I’m going to stop working as my income is not necessary, and we’re going to work on the family we’ve wanted. We’ve discussed how fun it would be to embrace our domme/sub relationship. This Halloween, I want to have him fully understand what that means. I have a contract he’ll sign, devoting himself to me in body and soul. I’ll control his penis, he’ll obey my commands. When I want pleased, he’ll do so how I command. And for this ceremony, I want it to be moments of pain, to teach him that I can inflict such if he is bad. I want there to be build-up, I want him to worship me, my parts. I know from our past that the more commanding I am, the more degrading the task I order, the hornier he gets. And finally, I want to culminate in him releasing his seed in me as part of our attempt to get pregnant. Can you please help – I know what I want, but I need ideas on how to put it all together.
Thank you,
Halloween Wife
What a beautifully powerful way to mark your anniversary and take your dynamic to the next level! It’s clear that both of you are deeply committed to each other, and this re-commitment ceremony you’ve envisioned sounds like the perfect way to solidify your roles and fully embrace your FLR. Let’s craft an unforgettable experience for him, where he truly understands his place as your submissive while also heightening his devotion to you, both physically and emotionally. Here’s a plan to help bring it all together:
1. Set the Atmosphere: Sacred and Intimate
First, create a space that feels both sacred and intimate. Since it’s Halloween, you can play with darker, more seductive elements that will set the mood for the ritual. Dim lighting with candles, perhaps deep red or black fabrics draped around the room, and sensual music to create a feeling of devotion and anticipation.
Actionable Steps:
- Throne for You: Set up a special chair or bed where you will sit—your “throne” for the ceremony. It should be elevated, signifying your position above him, a reminder of his submission to you.
- Alter for Him: Have a space where he can kneel before you, perhaps with a cushion or mat on the floor, to symbolize his devotion. The positioning should make it clear that this is about him worshipping and serving you.
2. Start with the Worship: Make Him Kneel
Begin by having him kneel before you, fully naked and vulnerable. Instruct him to worship you—your feet, your legs, working his way up slowly. This isn’t just about pleasure for you; it’s about him understanding his place and the depth of his submission to you.
Actionable Steps:
- Worship Your Body: Guide him in kissing, licking, and massaging your body, emphasizing that he is doing this to show his devotion. His focus should be entirely on pleasing you, with no thought of his own needs.
- Verbal Submission: While he’s worshipping you, have him repeat affirmations of his submission. Phrases like, “I belong to you, mind, body, and soul,” and “I live to serve you, my Goddess,” will reinforce the dynamic you’re building.
3. The Signing of the Contract: Sealing His Commitment
Once you feel he’s adequately demonstrated his devotion, bring out the contract you’ve prepared for him to sign. This is where the formality of his submission is truly sealed, and the weight of the commitment sinks in.
Actionable Steps:
- Ritualistic Signing: Present the contract to him while he’s still kneeling. Make it a moment of reverence, where he signs it knowing that this marks a new chapter in your relationship—one where he is fully devoted to you in body and soul.
- Symbolic Gesture: After he signs, you could collar him, tie a ribbon around his wrists, or have him kiss your feet as a symbolic act of submission and obedience.
4. Inflict Pain: A Lesson in Discipline
Once the contract is signed, it’s time to show him the power you hold. Since you want this ceremony to include elements of pain, this is where you can establish that while you are loving, you can also inflict punishment when necessary. The goal here is to build anticipation, not to break him, but to reinforce your dominance.
Actionable Steps:
- Slow Build-Up: Start by using your hands or a light flogger, teasing his skin with gentle taps, gradually increasing the intensity. Remind him that his submission means you have the right to inflict pain when you see fit.
- Impact Play: Consider using a paddle, cane, or whip for this part of the ceremony. Give him a few firm strikes, reminding him with each one that this is your power, and he is to submit fully.
- Verbal Reinforcement: As you inflict pain, use this moment to reinforce your control. Tell him, “This is what happens when you disobey,” or “You exist to please me, and I will decide what pleasure or pain you receive.”
5. Make Him Beg: A Lesson in Desire
Before giving him any form of release, make him earn it. The more he has to beg for your approval, the deeper his submission will go. This is about mental domination, ensuring he knows that any pleasure he receives comes solely from your decision.
Actionable Steps:
- Tease His Desperation: Deny him any pleasure for a while, making him beg for you to touch him, or for the chance to please you. Let him squirm and plead, fully demonstrating how much he craves your control.
- Degrading Tasks: Assign him small, degrading tasks, like licking your shoes or worshipping you in ways that amplify his submission. This will fuel his desire and make him even more desperate to serve.
6. The Grand Finale: Claiming His Seed
Now, after all the build-up, it’s time to end the ceremony with the ultimate act of submission and pleasure. You’ve made him wait, you’ve pushed his limits, and now you will allow him the release that he’s been craving.
Actionable Steps:
- Command His Release: Have him enter you, but be clear that he’s only allowed to cum when you give the command. You are in control of this moment, and he must hold back until you say he can let go.
- Powerful, Emotional Release: Let this be the climax (in more ways than one) of the ceremony. The significance of him releasing his seed into you as part of your plan to get pregnant will be deeply symbolic, representing both his physical submission and your mutual desires for the future.
- Finish with Devotion: After he’s released, make him stay inside you or kneel before you, whispering words of devotion and reaffirming his commitment to you. This is about more than just pleasure—it’s about solidifying his place as your submissive in both your hearts and your daily life.
7. Aftercare: Loving and Reassuring
Even in this dominant/submissive dynamic, aftercare is essential. Show him tenderness and care after such an intense experience. Let him know that his submission has pleased you, and reassure him with loving words and touch.
Actionable Steps:
- Cuddle and Comfort: Hold him close after the ceremony, running your fingers through his hair or massaging his back. Let him know that he’s done well, and that his devotion is appreciated and cherished.
- Verbal Reassurance: Speak softly to him, telling him how proud you are of him, how you cherish his submission, and how excited you are for the life you’re building together.
Final Thoughts: This re-commitment ceremony can be a beautiful blend of devotion, dominance, and intimacy. By structuring the evening with a combination of worship, pain, submission, and finally pleasure, you’ll give him an experience that will leave him even more devoted to you. And tying it all together with the significance of creating a family together? That’s simply breathtaking.
Wishing you a beautiful and powerful anniversary,
Mizz Geena
