Bondage for Beginners: How to Tie Him Up with Cuffs and Restraints

You don’t need rope, knots, or fancy suspension gear to start exploring bondage. In fact, for many Dommes, the most satisfying restraint scenes begin with something far simpler: a good pair of Velcro cuffs and a basic underbed restraint system. With these tools, you can create intensely erotic scenes that leave your submissive helpless, exposed, and aching for your attention.

This guide is for true beginners. No complicated ropework. No memorized knots. Just secure, sexy, foolproof control.

Safety Comes First, Always

Even with Velcro, you still need to keep your submissive safe:

• Safeword: Use one. “Red” to stop, “Yellow” to slow down. If he’s gagged, have him hold a bell or tap out.
• Check circulation: His hands and feet should never go numb, turn cold, or tingle.
• Never leave him alone while restrained.
• Scissors: Keep blunt-tip safety scissors nearby, just in case.

Now that we’ve handled the basics, let’s get to the fun part: tying him down.

Set the Scene: Using the Underbed Restraint System

If you don’t have one yet, order one tonight. An underbed system is made of a central strap that lies under your mattress, with four long, adjustable straps reaching out—two for the wrists, two for the ankles. You can pull them out and tuck them away between scenes. It’s perfect for turning your bed into a personal dungeon.

Position 1: On His Back, Spread Wide

Once you’ve got him cuffed, fasten his wrists and ankles to the four corners of the bed.

He’s exposed now. Fully available. No ability to cover himself. You can stand between his legs and lightly run your fingernails up his inner thighs. You can straddle his face without warning. You can tease his cock until he’s whining, then walk away to make him beg louder.

Let your dominance simmer here. Sit beside him. Whisper in his ear. Touch him with a vibrator—on his nipples, between his legs, just close enough to the tip but never quite there. You can edge him for twenty minutes without letting him touch a thing.

Optional: Add a blindfold. He won’t know what’s coming next.

Position 2: On His Belly, Pillow Under His Hips

Roll him over. Keep the cuffs on and clip them into the underbed straps again. Now place a firm pillow under his hips to raise his ass up.

This is a perfect position for spanking, strap play, pegging, or deep anal teasing. His cock is pressed into the sheets, useless. You can tease his hole with lube and your fingers, or stand behind him, grinding your strap-on between his cheeks.

Take your time. Tell him what a good hole he is. Slap his ass. Slide a toy in, just the tip, and wait. Or make him humiliate himself—humping into the sheets as you whisper about how desperate and pathetic he looks.

The Kitchen Chair Scenario

You don’t need a bed at all. All you need is a sturdy kitchen chair and your cuffs.

Position 3: Seated, Arms Bound Behind

Sit him on the chair. Cuff his wrists behind the chair back, so he’s forced to sit up straight and keep still. If the chair has slats, you can thread the cuffs through them. Then cuff his ankles to the chair legs or simply spread them wide.

Now he’s immobile, exposed, and upright.

This position is perfect for verbal domination, nipple play, edging, face slapping, spitting, or slow, humiliating stroking.

Want to make him squirm? Stand in front of him, legs spread, and slowly touch yourself while you instruct him not to move. Or step closer and rub your panties across his face while you mock his little twitching cock.

Want to humiliate him? Make him wear a cock ring, a vibrating plug, and a pair of pink panties. Then blindfold him and take pictures while he whimpers, fully aware of how helpless and ridiculous he looks for you.

Add Sensation. Add Ritual.

Even with simple bondage gear, you can make the experience deeply ritualistic:

• Apply lube slowly and intentionally while tied down. Make him feel like an object you’re preparing.
• Lick and kiss his nipples while he’s unable to reach back. It drives them wild.
• Take breaks. Walk out of the room. Let him stew in anticipation. He’ll beg louder the next time.
• Talk him through it. Tell him exactly what you see, what you’re going to do next, and how pathetic he looks.

Don’t Forget the Aftercare

Untie him gently. Rub his wrists. Let him rest his head in your lap, or curl up in your arms.

Even if the scene was teasing, playful, or humiliating, aftercare is what turns kink into intimacy. It tells your sub, “You’re mine, and I care for you.”

Ready to Begin?

Bondage doesn’t have to be complicated to be powerful. Velcro cuffs, a restraint system, and a kitchen chair can open up a world of erotic control and submissive surrender.

So go ahead. Strap him down. Make him squirm. Make him wait. Let him know he has no escape, no control, no choice… except to obey.