5 Ways I Plan To Improve as a Submissive Man

by subjay | Mar 28, 2025 | 29 comments

As a sub, i feel it is a never ending conscious effort to always aspire to be the very best submissive as i can be for my Goddess; to be open to growth, learning and also open to change as She would see fit. It also means having the courage and humility to be able to see those areas in myself and in my life that need improvement, that aren’t perfect, and fall short of what Goddess wishes for me, for Her, and for O/our dynamic.

As i recognize my purpose and seek to deepen my submission, it is a joy to have the opportunity to serve and worship at the feet of my Goddess and Her peers. In these areas i will strive to improve:

i will check in with Goddess regularly to make sure She is happy with me and that i am consistently a good sub for Her, and will seek Her guidance in improving any particular areas She feels needs improvement.

i will read more quality Femdom literature and share what i learn with Goddess.

i will work more on my physical fitness so that i may be as fit of a sub i can be for Her.

i will strive to get to know my Goddess more deeply so that i can more intuitively understand and instinctively transform my will into an extension of Hers.

i will write more and work harder on improving/evolving my communication skills and expressions of submission for my Goddess.

Thank You all for welcoming me to the Femdom U community! 🙏

subjay

subjay has had a passion for Femdom since he first discovered sexuality as a teenager. It has since become his lifelong dream to serve as a submissive. He has written about the dynamic for years. Even long before the internet he would handwrite pages of descriptive fantasies, only to shred them later to conceal his taboo fetish. But over time subjay matured, evolved and eventually came to accept and embrace his need to submit to dominant Women. Later, his writings would serve as an introduction and launching point for the professional dommes he would visit for real time sessions. He has published a number of Femdom blog posts and continues to express his submission through writing and various explorations in distance domination. subjay is excited and inspired to serve as a submissive to Mizz Geena and to be able to share his latest work here on Femdom U. "i'll kiss Your butt if You spank mine." - subjay 😊

29 Comments

duckie on March 28, 2025 at 9:31 am

great list! i know Mizz Geena will keep you busy on #5
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- subjay on March 28, 2025 at 10:14 am
  
  Thank you duckie! Yes, i know #5 will be a busy one for me!
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  - hertoy on March 28, 2025 at 9:54 pm
    
    Welcome to our community subjay. Your post is interesting and you have made a very wise decision to join us. Welcome on board.
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    - subjay on March 28, 2025 at 9:58 pm
      
      Thank you hertoy. Appreciate it.
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Mistress Heather on March 28, 2025 at 9:39 am

Welcome to the team subjay. I understand you’re going to become one of our prolific submissive writers – I look forward to seeing what you have to contribute.
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- subjay on March 28, 2025 at 10:15 am
  
  Thank You Mistress Heather! Pleasure to be here and i look forward to contributing!
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- Mistress Meghan on March 28, 2025 at 10:19 am
  
  I’m with Miss Heather. Looking forward to a new perspective.
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  - subjay on March 28, 2025 at 10:23 am
    
    Thank You Mistress Meghan! Looking forward to contributing and hope i can offer a worthy perspective. 🙂
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eleven on March 28, 2025 at 9:55 am

Welcome Subjay, looking forward to seeing what you are able to share with us. Great choice of points im sure you will make your Goddess proud.
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- subjay on March 28, 2025 at 10:17 am
  
  Thank you eleven! i appreciate Your response and yes, always strive to make Goddess proud!
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mrsub on March 28, 2025 at 10:18 am

hey man welcome to the team! Hope you do better than me at completing assignments… 🙂
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- subjay on March 28, 2025 at 10:21 am
  
  Thanks mrsub! Ha! Yes i will be doing my best at keeping up with assignments. 👍
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levi on March 28, 2025 at 10:35 am

Welcome aboard! I look forward to reading you!
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- subjay on March 28, 2025 at 10:41 am
  
  Thank you Levi! Look forward to reading you as well. ✌️
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Autumn on March 28, 2025 at 8:26 pm

Another good boy it looks like. Mizz Geena is getting all the toys… I’m sure she’ll let me play with you too. Welcome to FUM.
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subjay on March 28, 2025 at 9:49 pm

Thank You Autumn! Wow, sounds like fun! Very nice to meet You. 🥰
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- exibishboy on March 28, 2025 at 11:44 pm
  
  Hello and welcome to Femdom U subjay. Good article, I took some points from it.
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  - subjay on March 29, 2025 at 12:21 am
    
    Thanks exibishboy! Very glad you took something from it.
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Jessica on March 29, 2025 at 6:17 am

Welcome to the team! I look forward to reading your articles.
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- subjay on March 29, 2025 at 7:16 am
  
  Thank You Jessica! i will be reading Your interesting articles as well.
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Mizz Geena on March 29, 2025 at 9:05 am

I’m proud of my new sub, and my new property. He has decided to sign over control of his orgasms to me, making him my 3rd virtual sub under such command. Good boy for your proper responses here. Keep up the good work.
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- subjay on March 29, 2025 at 5:25 pm
  
  Thank You so much, Mizz Geena! i am so happy and proud to be Your submissive and property. And very excited for all the wonderful creative explorations ahead.
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subjay on March 29, 2025 at 10:05 am

Thank You Mizz Geena! i am so proud to be Your submissive and grateful to be Your new property. Very excited to turn over control and ownership to You and looking forward to many more days of submission and creative exploration with You and the Femdom U team. 🙏
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Zeek on March 29, 2025 at 1:00 pm

Welcome to the team man! Super excited to have you on board, looking forward to reading about your experiences.
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- subjay on March 29, 2025 at 4:53 pm
  
  Thanks zeek! Look forward to sharing and reading more. And i appreciate all your help getting everything set up. 🙏
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Amanda on March 29, 2025 at 1:38 pm

Another of these virtual subs, I’m not sure I have much use for you but I do commend you on sharing a photo of yourself on the profile. I have a bunch of these punishment marks left to assign this month, so I’ll gift you 10 as a welcome present. Enjoy
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subjay on March 29, 2025 at 4:50 pm

Thank You Mistress Amanda! i appreciate Your gift of punishment points. i embrace the gift of punishment; it helps me to grow and to become a better submissive. Nice to meet You!
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Goddess Barbara Wildestarr on March 31, 2025 at 4:10 pm

Welcome to FemdomU. I trust you’ve read your submissive horoscope and determined how you’ll apply my advice for April?
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- subjay on March 31, 2025 at 4:41 pm
  
  Thank You Goddess Barbara! Yes i have read my submissive horoscope. i’m a virgo. “Patience is not an option”. Nice. i will be thinking about how patience makes me a better submissive. 🙏
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