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Five Ways I Plan to Improve as a Submissive Man

by | May 29, 2025 | 27 comments

Though I wouldn’t call myself a stoic outright- I have too much of a love of fun and levity for that-, there is a bounty of wisdom within the Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. I feel that when taken carefully, many nuggets of positive masculinity can be mined from it. Like how living a life of discipline makes you ready for the most impossible sounding of tasks, or how all positive growth comes from being in service to another human being. These all fit snugly within the loving binds of the Way of Femdom, I have always found. Both stoicism and femdom implore the individual to learn, communicate, play, and evolve as a means of self-improvement. I’m not going to lie either, all that philosophy turns me on. If I can link being in service to a dominant lady to the self-improvement game, then I’m going to succeed in my labors, hell or high water.

Listening more

My favorite thing in this world to do is listen. I love hearing new music, I love the sound of wind sweeping across a grassy meadow, and sometimes I like the sound of nothing at all. Some of my favorite sounds though? I love the sound of a good whap from my goddess. I like the sound of her giggles when I disrobe for her. I adore the sound of her perfect diction as she points a lovely finger, and assigns me a new task. And I adore the sound of her moans, as she allows me the privilege of praying at her altar for hours, only coming up for air when she deems me worthy. If I can do more listening, than I feel like I’ve already improved by default.

Culturing Myself

I was having a discussion with a close domme friend of mine a while back over the term “sapiosexual”. While we both came away with slightly different takeaways from the discussion, we both agreed on this: A sexual partner without some kind of cultural interests is dull as dishwater. For me and the majority of women I’ve served, “scene-ing” and serving involve drawing upon the arts as well as the sciences. I adore singing as I do handywork around her house, for example. Maybe a torch-song from the great American songbook, or maybe a soulful delta blues tune. Maybe afterwards we write poetry for each other, and express it in metered rhyme…all before she crushes my balls beneath her perfect toes. Everyone likes passion. You can find all sorts of it in old books, storied songs, and fascinating scientific proofs. It comes out when being kinky, I promise you.

Take More time to Appreciate the little things

Nothing makes me fall to my knees faster than when a dominant lady is confidently flashing her toes at me. Or when she whispers into my ear all the things she’s going to do to me when we get back. Or when she so thoughtfully lays out all the implements and toys she wants to play with together. All of these are hot to be sure, but there is SO much thought and care behind everything a goddess does…I don’t know, if that good feeling of “she thought of me today” could be distilled into a nectar, I could sell it for a dollar a pop. I would like to revel in those little feelings a lot more, live in the moment.

Get some more sun

I’m an old native Californian, but currently living in the Midwest with an office job…There’s just not the same sun over here. Especially if I’m going to be modeling, I would like to get my tone as back to sun kissed as possible. We all already know the perks of getting that vitamin D, so I won’t bore anyone with them, but so few people I find actually commit to getting it. Not enough time in the day for most people to bask nude in the lifegiving rays of sol invictus. The sun is good for us (within reason, lol). It makes us happy, and that helps us be more attentive and receptive to our domes!

Write More

The main reason I find myself begging at the lovely feet of FemdomU, is because I want to make it as a writer. I’ve been doing it all my life, and I’ve got quite the little portfolio saved, and I have done so little with it. As a lifelong acolyte of the grand philosophy and discipline of Femdom, linking that to my writer’s aspirations can only help me. I need the sting of the whip to keep me composing, and I desire the teasing voice of my goddess spurring me on. I thank everyone that’s welcomed me here so far, I really couldn’t be happier. I hope to contribute to this community in fun, thought provoking, and sexy ways. Tall order for such a silly little slave, I know, but it’s the intent and the effort that can get use there. Thank you so much, and here’s to the finest publication I’ve ever been allowed to lay eyes on.

Forever loyal to Femdom U.

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BoxingGloveLove
BoxingGloveLove is a former boxer who has had the privilege of being a member of the BDSM community for more than a decade. He derives ultimate satisfaction from simply being useful to a dominant lady, and making her life easier. Ready to make his mark as a writer, he finds himself kneeling on the floor at FemdomU Magazine, eager to hone his craft, and write about a subject he knows and loves. View Full Profile

27 Comments

  1. duckie

    welcome to the team! stoked to have you on board!

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      Ah, same D!
      Thank you so much for the help getting here too.
      Sincerely, I appreciate it.

      Reply
  2. Zeek

    Hey bgl – welcome to the team. Your appreciate the little things especially stood out to me – you described that perfect feeling when you realize that she’s put time, effort, and thought into what she wants to do with you. Such a nectar is very valuable indeed!

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      Its the little things that make life worth living, you know?
      You got to take the time and savor the music and the silence of life.
      Makes it all the sweeter when you take the big things on, like a long night of leather and discipline.
      Thanks for everything, Z. I dig your style too.

      Reply
  3. Mistress Heather

    Welcone boxingglovelove. Mizz Geena shared your video recording of your oath of submission. A good boy, and I know we’ll be putting you to good use as one of our submissive scribes. I suspect I’ll have some commands for you in the coming weeks.

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      A pleasure to make your acquaintance, Mistress Heather.

      Writing is absolutely my thing, and I am excited to get down to it.
      I am ready, willing, and able to perform on command, Mistress.
      And I promise you, I will perform to the best of my abilities.

      Reply
  4. mr.sub

    Hey guy, welcome to the team. Looking forward to reading your stories and hearing more about you.

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      I’m an open book, friend.
      Granted, some of the pages are torn, half the thing is in Spanish, and it isn’t a very interesting read overall…
      But I’m an open book.

      Thanks, Mister. I’m ecstatic to be a part of the team.

      Reply
  5. Goddess Barbara Wildestarr

    Welcome, BoxingGloveLove. Watching you take your oath to the Magazine was a moment of quiet strength. You moved with care, intention, and respect. You appear to be a well trained sub who clearly understands the value of his service.

    Your timing is cosmically precise. As you begin your journey on May 29, the Moon is deep in Cancer, a placement that heightens emotional sensitivity and loyalty. This is the Moon of a servant who submits not only with obedience, but with heart.

    The Sun, Mercury, and Jupiter are all in Gemini, bringing intellectual agility and sharp communication. These qualities will serve you well as you begin to write, report, and reflect on your tasks.

    With Mars steady in Leo, your path forward invites bold and expressive service. This is a time to show pride in your position, not to shrink from it.

    Serve with devotion. Stay open to correction. And remember, every task is a chance to express your submission through both action and awareness.

    Welcome to your rightful place.

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      Goddess Barbara, you’ve almost moved me to tears.
      Your prose hits me like cool water in a hot desert. I will take note of the cosmology of this day.
      You are absolutely right, Goddess. Today feels special. It feels RIGHT.

      I was born on the first day of Aries…which I’ve heard means I have a lot of Pisces in me. Both water and fire.
      The Pisces, I’ve always thought, explained my sensitivity. And the Aries absolutely explains my fiery passion, and boisterousness.

      I will always be devoted, and always open to correction, mi diosa. This I swear. I want to reach a new plateau of improvement.

      Thank you for the wisdom, and this wonderful acceptance. I do…I do feel as though I’m in my rightful place.

      Reply
  6. exibishboy

    Hello Boxingglovelove. Welcome to FemdomU. I’m looking forward to reading your blogs.

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      Thanks, Exibish! Proud to stand shoulder to shoulder with you.

      Reply
  7. Autumn

    Welcome to service – I know the Magazine will make good use of you. I see yoiu’ve agreed to be commanded both mind and body – full surrender. Very good – I’ll be holding you to that soon.

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      I like the sound of that, Miss. A lot.

      And thank you for the welcome, I am proud to give my full surrender to you.

      Reply
  8. subjay

    Welcome to the team, BoxingGloveLove! Good luck, have fun and enjoy what’s to come for you here at Femdom U.

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      Thanks, Jay!
      I’m already having the time of my life!
      I really dig it here.

      Reply
  9. eleven

    Welcome BoxingGloveLove,

    Echoing above looking forward to reading more and finding out more about you.

    Eleven

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      Thanks, Eleven!

      Glad to meet you, and thanks for the welcome.

      Reply
  10. Mistress Meghan

    Welcome, BoxingGloveLove … hmmm … one time athlete, male-on-male competitor, and submissive … Have experience with boys like you (and loved them!!).
    And you swing the quill pretty well too.
    Look forward to your contributions.

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      Your words shine on me like the sun, Mistress.

      All I’ve ever wanted to do in life was to make people happy and entertained. To create harmony, maybe. Or some sexy chaos.

      I thank you and the other Dommes of the magazine for allowing me the privilege.
      It’s an honor like no other, diosa.

      Reply
  11. Mommieslittlepet

    Welcome to the team bgl! I’m looking forward to seeing the fresh perspectives you’ll bring.

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      Thanks, MLP!
      I’m also looking forward from learning from you.

      Reply
      • BoxingGloveLove

        *looking forward to learning from you.

        Autocorrect is the worse.

        Reply
  12. Jessica

    Mizz Geena told me about our new sub, I think she referred to you as a “sweet boxer boy.” Congratulations on becoming one of her boys, I am sure you’ll have a lot of fun and make some wonderful contributions. I have your upcoming Health and Safety-related feature for the Sub’s Corner on my board, I look forward to reading. If I can help with your draft at all, please reach out.

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      Thank you so much, Nursedom Jessica.

      I’m definitely excited for what the future holds, no doubt.

      It is an absolute privilege to have my unworthy work on your desk.

      Please let me know if I got anything wrong, as anatomy is only a hobby of mine.

      Reply
  13. Levi

    Hey, welcome brother. Really glad you’re here. I just read your piece and found myself nodding all the way through. That feeling you described, when the woman you love, adore, and worship lights something in you creatively? Yes. That.

    For me, my Goddess has become my muse. It’s like everything I write now carries her fingerprints. My poems come easier. My fiction has more edge. She brings something out of me I didn’t even know was there.

    Your words about wanting to write for these women, to serve them through creativity and craft, hit me straight in the heart.

    Can’t wait to see what you write next. Your voice already belongs here.

    Reply
    • BoxingGloveLove

      You know what’s up.
      I knew I was gonna like you, Levi.
      I dig your style as well, hermano.

      Reply

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