One of the most interesting parts of bringing Ben into my home has been learning what truly motivates him. Rewards and discipline only work when they are tailored, and he has been surprisingly honest in showing me where his buttons are.

He very clearly enjoys being pegged, which immediately made it valuable. That kind of pleasure does not come freely. It is now a reward reserved for a very, very good boy. Tasks completed without reminders. Initiative taken. Service done with pride. He understands that earning it means more than asking for it.

He is also an eager oral enthusiast, which presents a different challenge. I am still figuring out how to use that as leverage, since denying it would punish me as much as it would punish him. For now, I am paying close attention and letting that one develop naturally.

Discipline has been equally revealing. He enjoys pain to a point. His backside can take almost anything I give him without complaint. But I discovered something unexpected. A sharp rap on the knuckles with a ruler sends him spiraling immediately. That reaction alone made it a top punishment. Instant focus. Instant submission.

He also has a strong aversion to my tiny leather cock flogger, which surprised me given everything else he tolerates. That one deserves its own entry another time.

Learning a submissive like this is intimate work. Every reaction teaches me something. And Ben is proving to be very instructive.

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