I’m not sure how most of you came into FemDom, but for myself and my wife (C.M.), it has been a very slow and long process.
Do I wish things could have been different? Absolutely! Could we have entered into an FLR before our wedding? Honestly, it’s extremely hard to say. It’s definitely possible, although C.M. wasn’t in that mindset at the time (nor was I to this degree at least), and we were several years into marriage before it finally happened.
So, our wedding was a fairly typical one, as weddings go. No complaints, but so many “what if” questions have come up since then.
Recently while C.M. was away on a short personal vacation, I happened to be reading Ozzy Osbourne’s autobiography (which was extremely educational and entertaining) where he mentioned that he and his wife renewed their wedding vows. C.M. and I have kicked around the idea of renewing ours, and asked while she was away if she would like me to re-write ours. She was in full agreement.
Obviously, with us in our current family situation and needing to keep this on the D.L., my challenge was to re-write them in a subtle way where we could publicly address our new situation and essentially announce my submission to my wife in front of our guests, but without them really picking up on the nuances. (I have written another much more interesting and overt set of wedding vows which I would like to put in another separate blog, as well as a fictional story based on those).
Here’s what I wrote:
Her:
I, [C.M.], take you, [P.S.], to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to lead and to cherish, to stand by your side through thick and thin. I promise to be your partner, give you my heart and soul until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.
Me:
I, [P.S.], take you, [C.M.], to be my Wife, to obey, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to follow and to serve, to stand by your side through thick and thin. I promise to be your faithful partner, and fully submit myself until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.
They’re basically the same, with a few minor adjustments. Hers mentions that she will lead me, mine says that I will follow her. Hers promises to be my partner, while mine promises to be her faithful partner, an admission that not only will I have no other partners, but no orgasms without her permission, while she is free to pursue sexual relations with anyone she chooses (as per our FLR contract). Mine also specifies my requirement to submit to her, obey her, and serve her. Hers make no reference to any of those.
C.M. has told me she likes them, but at the moment has not commented one way or the other as to whether or not these will be done formally with friends and family with a small ceremony, but I sincerely hope that we do.
good luck man!
Thanks for sharing, PS! The wedding vows are beautiful and i think many can relate to your story (including myself) in terms of introducing FLR and Femdom into a traditional vanilla relationship. The great thing is that we can always work to create whatever unique dynamic works, for both the individuals and their relationships. Look forward to reading more about you and CM.