Unlock Your Friend’s Submissive Fantasy: A Wingman’s Guide to Finding the Right Domme

How to Be a Wingman for Your Submissive Buddy

So, your buddy’s looking to get his ass dommed, and you’re the wingman he’s counting on to make it happen. Whether he’s after a one-night stand or something that’ll have him begging for more, you’ve got a mission: help him find a dominant woman who’s ready to take charge.

I know what I’m doing

First of all, I have to tell you I know what I’m talking about when it comes to helping my submissive buddies get dominated! I’ve never really gotten along with your typical, masculine, hetero-male. But I do have a lot of friends who identify as submissive. I have other friends who may not have realized it yet, but they too belong on the floor submitting to a strong woman. But I’ll talk about those guys in another post.

This article is about helping the guys who are seriously looking for that dominant woman who might bring them home and give them the bad-boy spankings he’s been so craving. I’ve been in this position often, and to my quick count, I’ve helped hook up a sub friend of mine with a dominant woman at least a dozen times!

So, if I can do it, so can you subs reading this article. If, like me, you’re lucky enough to have found yours, help a bud out and be the best submissive wingman you can! Buckle up, ‘cause this ride’s gonna be one hell of a trip.

Step 1: Know Your Buddy’s Kinks

Before anything else, gather the details. You must know your friend’s deepest desires. Does he crave the sting of a whip, the thrill of being dominated and degraded? Or perhaps he yearns to have his testicles crushed and tortured? Get the inside scoop on his darkest fantasies, so you can guide the conversation towards the right path. That way you can hopefully avoid sending him home with a Dominatrix who wants a human toilet when your buddy is begging for a brutal spanking session!

Step 2: Pick the Right Venue

Let’s face it, finding a domme at your local dive bar is a long shot. You need to hit up places where dominant women are more likely to be. Check out BDSM clubs, kink-friendly bars, or fetish events. These spots are prime hunting grounds for your buddy’s dream domme. And hey, if you’re lucky, you might even find someone to trample you under her stilettos too.

Step 3: Break the Ice (Without Breaking Your Balls)

Approaching a dominant woman isn’t the same as hitting on a vanilla chick. Be respectful but confident. Start with a compliment that shows you appreciate her dominance. Something like, “I couldn’t help but notice how commanding you look tonight. My buddy here is hoping to find someone who knows how to take charge.” It’s bold, but it gets the point across.

Step 4: Sell Your Buddy (Without Sounding Like a Pimp)

Now, you gotta talk up your friend without coming off like a creep. Highlight his submissive qualities. Mention how eager he is to please and how he’s craving a dominant woman who can put him in his place. Make sure to emphasize that he’s respectful and understands the dynamics of a D/s relationship. No one wants to domme a clueless newbie who’s gonna safe word out at the first smack.

Step 5: Facilitate the Conversation

Once you’ve got her attention, it’s time to step back a bit and let your buddy do some of the talking. But stay close enough to steer the conversation if needed. If he’s getting nervous or tongue-tied, jump in with some stories about how he’s been fantasizing about finding the right domme, or even share a special skill he may have (any past girlfriends compliment his pussy-eating skills, etc?) Keep it light, funny, and a bit dirty to show you’re all on the same page.

Step 6: Close the Deal

If things are going well, it’s time to seal the deal. Suggest a more private setting or ask if she’d be interested in taking your buddy home for some fun. Be upfront about the kind of play your friend is into and make sure everyone’s on the same page about consent and boundaries. Dominant women appreciate clear communication, so don’t beat around the bush.

Bonus Tips for a Successful Wingman Mission:

• Look Presentable: You might not be the one getting dommed, but you still need to look good. Dress to impress and show that you’re a respectable wingman.
• Be Sober-ish: You don’t need to be stone-cold sober, but don’t get so wasted that you embarrass yourself or your buddy. No one wants a drunk idiot ruining the vibe.
• Have a Backup Plan: If your first target isn’t interested, don’t get discouraged. There are plenty of dominant fish in the sea. Have a few more potential dommes in mind and keep working the room.

Remember, being a good wingman isn’t just about getting your buddy laid. It’s about helping him find the right match who’ll make his submissive dreams come true. So get out there, be bold, and may the domme be ever in your buddy’s favor.