
The Power of Watching in Forced Bi Femdom Scenes

There’s a specific, electrifying kind of power that comes not from touching, but from watching—and knowing that your watchful gaze alone is enough to make submissives tremble, obey, and expose themselves in every sense. In the world of Femdom, forced bisexual play is not about orientation; it’s about ownership, obedience, humiliation, and expanding the realm of control.
For the Domme orchestrating this dynamic, the most potent tool isn’t a strap or paddle—it’s presence. This is about commanding the scene without direct involvement, using energy, authority, and expectation to shape the submissive experience. You are the director, the voyeur, the ultimate authority. Here’s how to do it masterfully.
Setting the Tone
Before a single item of clothing is removed or a command is given, your energy must set the stage. The submissives need to understand that this isn’t about their pleasure—it’s about your curiosity, your desire, your amusement. You are watching not because you’re removed from the act, but because you are above it.
Use language that reinforces this:
- “I’m not going to touch either of you. I don’t need to.”
- “You’re doing this for me. Every move, every sound, is mine to witness.”
- “I expect enthusiasm. You don’t get to hold back just because I’m not participating.”
You’ve established the hierarchy: they act, and you observe. But observing does not mean being passive. It means being dominant in the most intimate, psychological way possible.
Techniques for Maintaining Control
Here’s how to keep control, not just of the room, but of the inner landscapes of your submissives as they navigate a scene full of intensity, vulnerability, and erotic contradiction.
1. Give Detailed Instructions, Not Suggestions
Never leave things vague. You’re not asking—you’re dictating. Tell them:
- Exactly what to do and in what order.
- How they should look at each other—or avoid looking.
- When to speak and what to say (if anything at all).
- Whether or not they are allowed to enjoy it.
The more specific you are, the more deeply your control penetrates. You’re not just dictating behavior; you’re scripting the experience.
2. Create Psychological Stakes
A good Domme knows how to twist the knife—in a consensual, erotic way. Watching becomes powerful when the submissives know they are being judged.
Use phrases like:
- “Show me how desperate you are to please.”
- “That doesn’t look very convincing. Do it again. Better.”
- “Do you think I’m impressed? Because I’m not.”
Your gaze becomes a test. Approval is not guaranteed. Praise is rare and precious. Their whole world shrinks down to performing for you.
3. Control Tempo and Rhythm
You’re the metronome. You can speed things up, slow things down, or grind everything to a humiliating halt.
Try:
- Counting out loud.
- Using a timer to restrict certain acts to a strict duration.
- Pausing the scene abruptly with a simple command: “Stop. Hold that position. Don’t speak.”
This reminds everyone that even their bodies are on your time.
4. Incorporate Objectification and Positioning
When one or both submissives are engaged, you can further dehumanize and dominate by assigning names or roles:
- “You’re the toy. He’s the user. Neither of you gets to be a person until I say so.”
- “Hold that mouth open. That’s your function now.”
- “You’re both tools. Tools don’t get opinions.”
Make them kneel for your pleasure. Make them perform while facing you, or with their backs turned if you feel like denying them the intimacy of your gaze.
Managing Consent and Communication
It should go without saying—but it never should go unspoken. Consent is always negotiated upfront. All parties should know the nature of the play, its boundaries, and have agreed in advance. Forced bisexuality is a consensual kink—the “force” is theatrical. No surprises. No gray areas.
Use clear safewords, and consider establishing a traffic light system:
- Green: Keep going.
- Yellow: I’m reaching my limit.
- Red: Full stop.
Also, plan aftercare. This type of scene can stir deep feelings—shame, arousal, confusion, pride. Your presence during and after helps ensure that your submissives feel owned, cared for, and safely held within your power.
Layering Domme Presence: The Eyes That Strip
Don’t underestimate how deeply your mere watching can dig into the submissive psyche. Being watched is a form of exposure. A Domme who simply sits in a chair, silent, fully clothed, while submissives awkwardly navigate each other’s bodies under her gaze? That’s power distilled.
Ways to heighten this:
- Dress in contrast—fully clothed in black while they’re naked and scrambling.
- Touch yourself slightly while they go at it—but don’t finish.
- Take notes. Literally. With a pen and pad. Let them wonder what you’re writing.
- Record the scene (with full consent) and make them watch it later with you narrating it like critique.
This is where Domme-as-director meets Domme-as-goddess. Your gaze becomes a commandment. Every moment they exist in that scene, they do it for you.
Turning the Scene into Ritual
Want to take it to another level? Make “performing for you” a recurring event. A ritual. Not every session needs to end in orgasm. In fact, denial can be a powerful reinforcement of your status.
For example:
- Let one submissive cum while the other watches—but neither gets to touch you.
- Allow kissing between them, but not for too long. Pull them apart just to reassert who’s really in charge.
- Occasionally blindfold one, but never both. One will always be seen. One will always feel unseen.
Ritual builds emotional dependency. The submissives begin to crave the moment when they are called to perform, because it’s the only time they feel truly “seen” by you.
Final Thoughts
Forced bisexual scenes under the command of a watchful Domme are not about degrading orientation—they’re about exposing obedience. They are vivid expressions of dominance in motion, with you at the calm, commanding center.
Your voice is the conductor’s baton. Your gaze is the spotlight. Your approval is the drug. And they will crawl over each other, lose themselves in roles and rituals, just to keep your eyes on them for a moment longer.
You don’t need to lift a finger to control them.
You only need to watch.
OMG! Were you watching my April Fools weekend? Some differences (including having a larger audience), but …
No, I wasn’t invited! 🙂
I probably wrote this piece back in February honestly!
For a typical hetero sub male, this is definitely one of the more intense acts of submission. When submission is the primary kink, crossing orientation can be the ultimate expression of true submission. And the dynamic described here… 🔥 Thanks for posting, Mistress Heather!
Well put.
Thank You, Mistress Heather.