A Dominant's Holiday Gift Guide to Rewarding Your Submissive

The holiday season is the perfect time to reward your submissive for their dedication, service, and obedience throughout the year. Whether your dynamic thrives on playfulness, discipline, or devotion, a thoughtful gift can reinforce your bond and add excitement to your relationship. With so many options out there, finding the perfect Femdom-approved holiday gift might seem overwhelming—but don’t worry. We’ve curated a list of toys, tools, and treasures guaranteed to make your submissive feel both cherished and controlled.

Here are some of our top picks for holiday gifts that will please both you and your good boy.

1. The Ultimate Chastity Device

For many Dommes and their subs, chastity is a cornerstone of their dynamic. Upgrading your submissive’s chastity device—or gifting them their very first one—can be a thrilling way to kick off the new year.

Suggestions:

Custom-Fitted Devices: Invest in a high-quality, custom-made chastity cage for comfort and long-term wear.
Themed Cages: Choose a festive or playful design to match the season, like a device with snowflake or bow details.

Not only is this a gift for your submissive, but it’s also a clear reminder of your ownership and control.

2. Collar and Leash Sets

A new collar is a deeply symbolic and practical gift for any submissive. Whether worn privately or during scenes, a collar is a constant reminder of their submission and your authority.

Suggestions:

Elegant Designs: Look for collars made of leather or metal with subtle embellishments like gemstones or custom engravings.
Leashes: Pair the collar with a matching leash to assert control during your scenes or even a festive stroll.

For an added touch, engrave the collar with your name, a meaningful date, or a playful phrase like “Property of Mistress.”

3. Impact Toys

If your dynamic involves corporal punishment or impact play, gifting your submissive a new toy is a fantastic way to enhance your scenes. A beautiful, high-quality impact toy can serve as both a reward and a reminder of your authority.

Suggestions:

Floggers: Choose a luxurious material like suede or leather for a sensual yet effective impact.
Canes and Crops: Opt for an elegant, handcrafted piece for precise strikes.
Paddles: Consider a paddle with customizable engravings or cutouts, such as “Naughty” or your initials.

4. Sensory Play Enhancements

If you love teasing and tormenting your submissive, sensory play toys make excellent gifts. These tools allow you to heighten sensations and explore new dynamics together.

Suggestions:

Blindfolds: Look for plush, comfortable designs that block out light completely.
Wartenberg Wheels: These spiked wheels are perfect for exploring their body and keeping them on edge.
Feather Ticklers: Ideal for contrast in scenes involving both pleasure and punishment.

5. A Submissive’s Wardrobe

Add to your submissive’s wardrobe with clothing or accessories that align with your Femdom aesthetic. From lingerie to service uniforms, these gifts allow you to dress your submissive exactly how you like.

Suggestions:

Sissy Lingerie: For the submissive who enjoys feminization, pick out delicate lace or satin pieces.
Service Attire: Maid uniforms or butler outfits can make daily service tasks even more fun.
Playful Accessories: Think stockings, gloves, or themed outfits that reflect the holidays.

6. BDSM Furniture or Restraints

For those looking to invest in larger gifts, BDSM furniture or advanced restraints can elevate your play space and your dynamic.

Suggestions:

Spanking Benches: A beautifully crafted bench is both practical and visually striking.
Bondage Sets: High-quality cuffs, spreader bars, or under-the-bed restraints add versatility to your scenes.
St. Andrew’s Cross: A dramatic addition to any playroom for the ultimate in submission and restraint.

7. Personalized Gifts

A personalized gift adds a meaningful touch to your holiday offering. These items are as unique as your dynamic, making them perfect for reinforcing your connection.

Suggestions:

Engraved Lockboxes: Store their collar or chastity key in a lockbox engraved with your initials or a playful command.
Custom Journals: Encourage them to keep a submissive journal with a book embossed with their title or your name.
Photo Keepsakes: Frame a photo of a favorite scene or a significant moment in your journey together.

8. Edging or Teasing Toys

For the submissive who loves (or dreads) edging and denial, toys designed for prolonged teasing make an excellent gift.

Suggestions:

Remote-Controlled Toys: Allow you to control their pleasure—or frustration—from anywhere.
Prostate Massagers: Perfect for exploring advanced edging techniques.
Vibrating Rings: Enhance stimulation while ensuring you maintain full control.

9. The Gift of Knowledge

For the curious submissive, knowledge is a powerful gift. Enrich their understanding of Femdom and submission with books, guides, or workshops.

Suggestions:

Books: Titles like The Loving Dominant or The Mistress Manual provide insights into the lifestyle.
Workshops: Sign them up for a virtual or in-person BDSM class.
Memberships: Gift them a subscription to FemdomU Magazine for a year’s worth of inspiration and guidance.

10. A Personalized Experience

For the submissive who has everything, consider gifting an experience tailored to their role and your dynamic. These moments can create lasting memories and strengthen your bond.

Suggestions:

Private Sessions: Arrange a professional photoshoot in their collar or favorite outfit.
Roleplay Escapes: Plan an immersive weekend where they serve you in a themed scenario.
Luxury Service Day: Dedicate a day to pampering and serving you, with special rewards for their effort.

Making the Gift Presentation Special

When presenting your gift, consider adding a touch of ceremony to reinforce the significance of your dynamic:

Wrap it in elegant or festive packaging that aligns with your aesthetic.
Have your submissive kneel to receive their gift as a sign of gratitude and respect.
Include a handwritten note or set of instructions to accompany the gift, outlining how you plan to use it in your play.

A Season of Submission and Joy

This holiday season, let your gifts celebrate the unique bond you share with your submissive. Whether it’s a playful toy, a symbolic collar, or an unforgettable experience, your thoughtfulness will remind them of their cherished place at your feet. After all, the best gifts are those that bring joy, excitement, and a reminder of who’s in charge.

Happy Holidays from all of us at FemdomU Magazine—and may your holiday season be filled with submission, service, and satisfaction!