Deer Mizz Geena: My girlfriend and I are super kinky, really into bondage and domination. Our favorite is for her to tie me down in various positions, and fuck me – either dick in pussy, or her strapon in my ass. She came up with a really devious plan and I was into it at first, but then I started thinking about how dangerous it might be, so I wanted to ask your opinion. She read something about body piercing bondage, and she wants to try. I’ve already got one nipple pierced, and she wants me to get both my other nipple AND my cock pierced. I’ve discussed doing those things before, and I’m very open to it.

What she wants to do is have rings as my piercings, and then be able to use those as bondage points to hold me down. She says the pain of pulling too hard will keep me in place, but I’m worried – what if I jerk and rip one out?

Is this a real thing?

Do people get body piercings and use them as bondage points in bdsm? If so, what do we need to know to keep my cock and nipples attached to the rest of my body?

Sincerely,
Vodoo BondageBoy

Dear Voodoo BondageBoy,

I can see that you and your girlfriend are really into exploring your kinks and pushing boundaries together, which is fantastic! It’s great that you’re thinking critically about the safety of your play, especially when it comes to something as intense as body piercing bondage. This can be a thrilling and visually striking element in BDSM, but it’s absolutely essential to approach it with caution, knowledge, and proper preparation to avoid serious injury.

1. Yes, It’s a Real Thing—But Safety First: Body piercing bondage is indeed a real practice in the BDSM community, and it can add a unique element of restraint and control. However, it’s not something to dive into without understanding the risks and taking steps to mitigate them.

Due to the high risk factor of Body Piercing Bondage, we do not reccommend this for our readers. This requires a very high-level of professional knowledge and precaution in order minimize risk, and should only be attempted by the most experienced Femdom practitioners.

2. Healing Time: Before using any piercings as bondage points, it’s crucial to allow them to heal completely. Nipple piercings can take 3 to 6 months to heal fully, and genital piercings can take anywhere from 4 to 12 months, depending on the type of piercing and individual healing rates. During this time, it’s important to care for your piercings properly, following all aftercare instructions provided by your piercer to prevent infection and ensure they heal correctly.

3. Choosing the Right Piercing Type: Not all piercings are suitable for use as bondage points. Rings might seem like the obvious choice, but they can be more prone to tearing if there’s sudden movement or too much pressure. Instead, consider captive bead rings or circular barbells, which can distribute tension more evenly. For your penis, certain piercings like the Prince Albert or frenulum piercing might be more appropriate for light bondage, but they still carry risks.

4. Understanding the Risks: Even with fully healed piercings, there’s a significant risk of tearing, especially if there’s sudden, jerky movement or excessive force applied. The idea that the pain of pulling will keep you in place can be true, but it’s also important to recognize that accidents can happen—especially in the heat of the moment. Tearing a piercing can lead to serious injury, so it’s vital to approach this with care.

5. Using Piercings as Bondage Points: If you and your girlfriend decide to proceed, here are some tips to minimize risks:

Start Slow: Begin with very light tension and see how your body responds. Over time, you might be able to gradually increase the amount of pressure, but never to the point where you’re at risk of tearing.

Use Multiple Restraint Points: Don’t rely solely on the piercings for restraint. Use traditional bondage gear (like ropes, cuffs, or straps) in conjunction with the piercings. This will take some of the pressure off the piercings and provide a backup in case of sudden movements.

Regularly Check for Signs of Stress: During play, keep a close eye on the piercings for any signs of tearing, swelling, or unusual pain. If anything seems off, stop immediately.

Have a Safe Word and Safety Scissors: As with any BDSM activity, make sure you have a safe word and safety scissors nearby to quickly release the tension if necessary.

6. Consult a Professional Piercer: Before using piercings in bondage, have a thorough discussion with a professional, experienced piercer. They can provide guidance on the best types of jewelry, proper healing procedures, and specific risks associated with using piercings in this way. They may also offer advice on how to play safely if you choose to use the piercings for light restraint.

7. Alternative Ideas: If you’re unsure about the risks or want to explore other options, you might consider using non-piercing bondage gear that simulates the experience. There are plenty of clamps, nipple rings, and genital bondage devices designed to give the sensation of being restrained by piercings without the risk of permanent injury.

Final Thoughts: Body piercing bondage can be an intense and exciting way to enhance your BDSM play, but it comes with significant risks that shouldn’t be taken lightly. If you and your girlfriend decide to go down this path, take every precaution to ensure your safety, and never rush the process. The most important thing is to protect your body while still enjoying the dynamic and thrill that BDSM brings to your relationship.

Stay safe, and have fun exploring!

Warmly, Mizz Geena