Chastity Tips for Men Who Are Growers Not Showers

As a “grower, not a shower,” I’ve always been a little self-conscious, especially in locker rooms. Back in school, I’d avoid showering with the other guys because, well, I wasn’t exactly showing much. I knew they’d be the ones put to shame if they saw the size of my hard on, but that wasn’t going to happen. My growing cock is something Annie loves about me though, and these days I’ve learned to embrace it. It’s a bit of a badge of honor now, really.

Annie and I have been considering trying chastity again. We gave it a shot when we were younger, but let’s just say we didn’t really know what we were doing back then. Long story short—I got hurt. The cage was way too tight, and Annie had the key and was away for the day. Meanwhile I, for some reason (probably being a horny 20-something), managed to get an erection. Or at least my dick tried to, and let me tell you, it hurt like hell. It even looked bad—swollen, red, and scary. In a full-on panic, I almost went to the ER, but instead, I ended up going to a neighbor to help cut me out of it. Nothing quite compares to the nervousness of having somone use a hacksaw near your privates. Let’s just say the erection disappeared before the lock was cut off.

I was okay – it was red and sore for awhile, but nothing serious and I just dealt with the discomfort. I should have seen a doctor and I’m frankly lucky I didn’t do any lasting damage. Guys – BDSM is fun, it’s necessary, but we also have to protect our cocks! If you ever have anything happen to yours, go to the ER and have it checked out.

Anyhow, nowow that Anny has started revisiting the idea of chastiry, we’re taking it slow. Annie’s been clear that we won’t rush things, and she’s tasked me with spending Locktober doing my research. So, here I am, sharing what I’ve discovered for guys like me—those who might start small but grow into something mighty. The key to chastity for “growers” is finding a cage that’s snug but not too restrictive. It needs to be strong enough to hold your rod in place when it tries to grow, but not so tight that it causes injury.

For men who are “growers, not showers,” meaning their penis grows significantly when erect compared to its flaccid size, using a chastity cage can present certain risks if not properly fitted. Here are some potential concerns and considerations:

1. Tightness and Constriction: If a chastity cage is fitted tightly when the penis is flaccid, it can become uncomfortably restrictive or even painful when an erection occurs. The cage may not have enough space to accommodate the growing penis, which can lead to:
   • Discomfort and Pain: The erection pushing against a cage that’s too tight can cause discomfort, soreness, or sharp pain.
   • Circulation Issues: Prolonged restriction of blood flow could lead to more severe problems like bruising, numbness, or even tissue damage if left unaddressed.
2. Risk of Injury: If the cage is overly tight, an erection that cannot expand properly may put excessive pressure on the penile tissue, increasing the risk of injury. In extreme cases, this could potentially lead to cuts, abrasions, or more serious damage if the wearer tries to force an erection against the constraints of the cage.
3. Swelling and Edema: Some men may experience swelling (edema) if the erection pushes too hard against the confines of a small cage. This happens because the blood flow becomes trapped in the tissue, especially if the penis cannot expand normally.
4. Emergency Situations: In some cases, the pressure from an erection within a too-small cage could cause a partial blockage of urine flow or, more rarely, an emergency situation like priapism (a prolonged erection that doesn’t subside). While uncommon, priapism is a serious medical condition that requires immediate treatment.

Safe Practices for Chastity with “Growers”:

• Proper Sizing: When selecting a chastity cage, it’s essential to choose one that has enough room for a bit of growth even when the penis is flaccid. The cage should be snug but not so tight that it completely constricts the penis during an erection.
• Adjustability: Some chastity cages come with adjustable rings or cages to account for size changes, which can be beneficial for men with significant size variation between flaccid and erect states.
• Frequent Check-Ins: Men who are new to chastity or who have larger size variations should frequently check for discomfort, circulation issues, or any signs of injury. If there are any signs of numbness, intense pain, or discoloration, the cage should be removed immediately.

Ultimately, the key to safely using chastity for “growers” is finding a balance between restraint and comfort to avoid putting the wearer at risk.