Discovering a Hidden Kink Through Humiliation
Dear Mizz Geena,
I’ve been serving my Domme for a little over a year now, and until recently I thought I had a solid grasp of my limits. We had discussed them carefully at the start, and humiliation was something I marked as a hard “no.”
But last week, during a session, she surprised me. It was not anything extreme, just a few humiliating words and a task that made me feel completely exposed. At first I felt shocked and resistant, but as the scene went on, I realized I was deeply aroused and could not deny how much it turned me on. I have been replaying it in my head ever since.
Now I feel conflicted. On one hand, I trusted her to push me, and she clearly read me better than I read myself. On the other, I had set a limit, and I do not know if this means I should revisit that limit, or if I should be worried that I did not recognize my own boundaries in the first place.
Does discovering pleasure in something I thought I did not want mean I should renegotiate my limits? Or should I be more cautious about letting my Domme test them again?
Sincerely,
Confused (but turned on) Sub
My sweet Confused Sub,
First, let me tell you how beautifully brave it is to admit these feelings out loud. Many submissives struggle quietly when a new kink or desire surfaces, especially one wrapped in the vulnerability of humiliation. By writing in, you have already taken an important step toward self-understanding and deeper intimacy with your Domme.
You are discovering what many submissives eventually learn. Limits are not stone walls, they are living edges of your erotic self. Sometimes, what you think is a “no” is really just an unexplored shadow. When your Domme teased you into that moment, she wasn’t breaking you, she was opening you. And you responded with desire, not because you are weak, but because your submission wanted to grow.
Should you renegotiate your limits? Possibly. Not because you must throw open the gates, but because clarity and communication keep you safe. Sit down with her and share your discovery. Tell her you were surprised, turned on, and curious. Let her know that humiliation is not a blanket “no” anymore, but something you want to explore with guidance and care. Together, you can shape what forms of humiliation feel hot and which still cross the line.
The key is not to be ashamed. Submission is about surrendering to the unknown and learning who you are in the hands of the woman you trust. What you felt is not wrong. It is simply another layer of your truth. If she pushed you and it blossomed into pleasure, that means she sees you. That is a gift.
So, my darling, do not fear this new hunger. Treat it as a door that only opens when you and your Domme decide to step through it together. The greatest thrills of femdom often come when a sub allows his Mistress to guide him beyond what he thought he could bear, only to find himself trembling with joy.
Stay curious, stay vulnerable, and stay surrendered. You are on exactly the right path.
With understanding and a wicked smile,
Mizz Geena
Readers, have you ever been surprised by a kink you thought you’d never enjoy? Did your Mistress push you past a limit and open something unexpected inside you? I’d love to hear your stories.
Miss Geena
I was young and very submissive early in our marriage and Todd my husband more or less led the marriage. He’s 8 years older and a professional person, and I’m a bartender. He didn’t care about my pleasure
As a few years went by, I learned a key secret Todd never told me: he’s incredibly ticklish and when I tickle him Todd is almost paralyzed by fear and submissiveness kicks in and extreme arousal. BINGO! My ticket to be in charge
I got Todd to admit he LOVES being tickled, so I started talking more bossy and dominating, talking down to him and forcing him to verbalize his kinky secrets! Oh did I hit some juicy kink nuggets!
1. Todd has 19 ticklish spots and I have them ranked in order of ticklishness
2. Todd loves smelling my feet after I tend bar 8 hours in black sneakers
3. Todd loves cleaning up his messes (oh I really humiliate him as he licks up and tell him it’s another guys seed)
This gives me an incredible advantage in the bedroom and in our relationship
Todd has learned to obey me! I act tough and bossy, and he obeys
When he needs punished I tickle him after his orgasm when he cannot stand it. I have also made him strip bare naked in front of my best friend Debbie after todd argued with her about politics
My orgasms c9me first now, and sometimes I don’t allow Todd to climax for over a month Amazing how attentive he is when I steal his orgasm
I also pushed the button and told Todd I want to see him suck. Not another man…..yet. My fingers. My toes. A strap on Todd has an incredible erection when I humiliate him, so he can expect a lot more and worse humiliations!
I found that being ‘forced to confess’ kinks while being consensually tied up, tortured, or punished, gave me emotional permission to let my most repressed kinks come to the surface. It was tremendously cathartic and brought me closer to my wife. And it kept me from straying to strangers to ask for things that I was too afraid to ask my wife for.
She didn’t always indulge me. But she discovered something I wanted that was a bridge too far, she knew how to capitalize on it through tease and denial…something else that brought us closer together.
This is a great example of ‘no’ and ‘NO’.
With the first probably more shrouded in uncertainty or lack of confidence more of a ‘no, I don’t think so’. It sounds like the domme in this example took a gamble, read the signs and gave it a try which paid off.
I think finding a way to bring it up, discuss that it might be something you’d be open to explore more in future is a great next step.