Femdom Fisting: Five Steps to Turning Your Submissive into Your Puppet

There’s a reason anal fisting holds such psychological power in the Femdom dynamic. It’s not just the intense physical submission, the vulnerability, or the raw intimacy. It’s the possession. A Domme who fists her submissive takes control of his most private opening, explores him deeper than he ever imagined possible, and leaves him stretched wide open and utterly claimed. This is not just penetration, it is puppetry. And done properly, it is both safe and sensational.

This article will walk you through the process of turning your submissive into your fisting puppet, covering the physical, psychological, and symbolic components of this extreme act of domination.

Why Fisting is So Powerful in Femdom

Fisting isn’t just a sex act, it’s a ritual of control.

When a man submits to fisting, he’s giving you access to a part of himself even he doesn’t truly understand. His ass becomes your sheath, your tunnel, your socket —your handle. Once your hand is inside him, moving with deliberate, controlled force, he is no longer just a man. He is your toy, your vessel, your living puppet.

For many submissives, this act breaks down the last wall of resistance. There’s no pretending to be in charge, no illusion of equality. A man who has been fisted by a Domme knows who owns him. And she can feel it too, literally, from the inside out.

Step One: Preparing His Body (and Mind)

Fisting requires preparation. This is not an activity to rush. A proper fisting session begins long before your glove ever nears his hole.

Clean him out.
A thorough enema is mandatory. Have him douche until the water runs clear. For longer scenes or deeper play, a second rinse may be required. He should not eat a heavy meal for at least six hours before the session. A light, bland meal the night before, and plenty of water.

Relaxation and trust.
The ass is a sensitive, guarded area. He must be physically relaxed and psychologically open. This is not the time for screaming humiliation or aggressive degradation. You want him calm, obedient, and focused. Use eye contact. Use praise. Use command. Make him want this. Make him crave to be filled by you.

Stretch and train.
If this is your first time exploring anal depth with him, start with plug training in the days or weeks beforehand. He should be able to comfortably take a large plug, like a 3″ diameter toy, before you begin.

Step Two: Setting the Scene

You’ll want:

• A comfortable surface for him to lie on (preferably towels or a waterproof sheet)
• Plenty of thick, silicone-based lube (J-Lube or Crisco are favorites for a reason)
• Latex or nitrile gloves (non-powdered)
• A relaxed, private space where you can take your time
• A safeword system that allows him to communicate limits clearly, even under stress

Position him in a way that opens his ass completely. The most common is lying on his back, knees up and pulled toward his chest. Another popular one is doggy style with a slight arch, but for your first time, face-up tends to be easier to manage and more intimate.

Step Three: Begin the Descent

Lube.
Be generous. You want him slick and glistening. Lubricate your gloved hand thoroughly and reapply often.

Insertion.
Start with one finger. Then two. Curl them, rotate gently. Add a third. Massage his rim. Use your voice to control him: “Open for me.” “Breathe.” “Take it like a good boy.” Make him feel every inch.

Slowly, patiently, build toward four fingers. Let him adjust. Let his body invite your hand deeper. Use twisting, rocking, not just pushing. Feel for resistance, and back off when you sense it. Fisting is not about pain. It’s about surrender.

Once you reach the “knuckle gate,” pause. This is the tightest part. His body will clench. Wait. Speak to him. Rub his thighs. Tell him how proud you are. When ready, push through the gate gently but firmly, and your entire hand will slide inside.

Step Four: Puppet Play

Once inside, pause. Let him feel the fullness. Let him tremble. Flex your fingers gently. Explore the space. Curl and uncurl your hand. Stroke his prostate if you want to give pleasure—or avoid it if you want to edge him without release.

From here, you control him like a toy. Every shift of your wrist is a command. You can make him moan, beg, cry out, or collapse in silence. Tell him:

“You are mine. I’m inside you now. I move you. I control you.”

You can hold him like that, still and stretched, for minutes on end. Or, begin to pump. Slowly. Rhythmically. Drive him into subspace. Turn him into your puppet.

You can even layer it with other control games:

• Use a vibrator on his caged cock while you fist him
• Have him recite mantras while you fist (“I am my Mistress’s hole”)
• Insert a mirror under him so he has to watch himself being used

Step Five: Withdrawing and Aftercare

Removing your hand must be done gently. Curl fingers, withdraw slowly, let his body follow. Some Dommes refer to this as “the birthing” or “the release.” It is often emotional.

Let him collapse into your arms. Stroke his hair. Tell him what a good puppet he was. Some submissives cry afterward. That is not weakness. That is depth. You reached into his core, and he gave it to you willingly.

Aftercare should include:

• A warm blanket
• Rehydration
• Time for him to talk or be held
• Possible anal soothing (numbing gel, warm compresses)

Advanced Play: Long-Term Training

With regular fisting, your submissive will stretch and become more capable of taking you easily. Some Dommes train their boys to be able to take a full arm. Others introduce plug “retainers” afterward to keep him stretched open, objectified, and sore.

There are also variations:

• Double Fisting: Not for beginners, but possible with trained subs
• Prolonged Insertion: Keeping the hand inside for 10–30 minutes as an endurance test
• Fisting During Orgasm Control: Have him edge or ruin while fisted
• Public Ownership: Documenting fisting sessions with photos or writing for a shared Femdom journal, reminding him his body is no longer private

Final Thoughts

Fisting is not for every Domme, but for those who embrace it, it can be one of the most dominant, erotic, and transformative practices in the Femdom world. It is your hand, your power, your dominance that fills him. He can no longer close to you. He is open, taken, and completely yours.

You didn’t just fuck his ass.

You took control of his body.

You turned him into your puppet.

And once he’s been fisted by you, he’ll never feel whole again unless your hand is inside him.

*Ready to begin your own fisting journey? Start slow. Train him well. And when he finally opens for you fully, don’t just fist him—own him.