5 Ways I Plan To Improve As A Submissive Man

by eleven | Mar 21, 2025 | 20 comments

I’m a man that has perhaps been on a journey that was always intended to reach embracing and becoming a submissive. It is my hope that from the support and guidance offered here that I can be a better me.

Some of the ways that I hopes I can achieve this and better myself is to:

Practicing active communication. Remember that submission doesn’t mean silence. Communication is a critical part of any successful relationship regardless of its type, I want to make sure that I’m not just listening but hearing and understanding. I hope to be able to accurately record and report my thoughts and feelings respectfully whilst being open to constructive feedback. From this I’m is hoping to create a deeper trust in my relationships.
Becoming more adaptable. Life and relationships are ever evolving and I should embrace each change as they present themselves. This may mean I may need to be more flexible in my expectations, open to learn new things and willing to trust in new things that may take me out of my comfort zone. This could be to try a new experience or evolving my mindset. I want to be committed to growth and adapting to any changes.
Learning to anticipate needs. I feel that a key part of being a submissive is learning to recognize needs before they are expressed. Whether it’s a small gesture or completing a task unasked, I wants to develop the attentiveness to make my dominant’s life a little easier. This can be from listening or observing and acting correctly to the situation.
Mastering self-discipline. Submission involves consistency and dedication, and I knows that this starts with self-discipline. Whether it’s being punctual, following through on commitments, or maintaining personal habits that enhance my submissive role. I want to build a structure and have the reliability that will help me serve more effectively and with greater confidence.
Showing unwavering gratitude. Gratitude is the heartbeat of submission for me. I am committed to ensuring I expresses appreciation for the time, effort, and energy that others invest in me. From heartfelt thank-you to meaningful gestures, I want to ensure that the people I cares for always feel valued and seen.

I will treat each day as a new opportunity to reflect, improve and grow into becoming a better submissive version of myself. I am excited about the journey before me and welcomes the connections with others that share a similar mindset.

eleven

For Eleven, traversing the world of domination has, for the majority, been a solo journey, which for someone with a submissive mentality is far from perfect – but hopefully not too late for that to change. He found from a young age that he was drawn to the kinks such as bondage, feminization, and more recently, FLRs and submission. His day-to-day life, however, is paired with a fairly passive or submissive nature, which has kept his journey one primarily of self-discovery. View Full Profile

20 Comments

exibishboy on March 21, 2025 at 3:15 am

Good points eleven.
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- eleven on March 21, 2025 at 3:18 am
  
  Thank you exibishboy, took a while to find ones relevent to me and meaningful. Happy with my selection though.
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  - exibishboy on March 21, 2025 at 8:50 am
    
    By the way excuse my manners, welcome to FemdomU!
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duckie on March 21, 2025 at 6:33 am

hey man, all good points. 3 is super important – it is what can make you stand out from other subs.
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- eleven on March 21, 2025 at 6:35 am
  
  Thanks Duckie, noted. Pay extra attention to this one!
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  - Zeek on March 21, 2025 at 9:25 am
    
    Agree with duckie – maybe advanced but master #3 and she’ll always want to keep you around!
    
    Welcome again to the team!
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Levi on March 21, 2025 at 8:41 am

Nice! Welcome to the group dude.
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- eleven on March 21, 2025 at 8:42 am
  
  Thanks Levi, happy to be here 🙂
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Mistress Heather on March 21, 2025 at 8:55 am

Welcome to FemdomU Magazine, eleven. Mizz Geena tells me you’re already showing promise as you get onboarded. I’ll be interested to see how you progress with her training. I also understand I’ll get to use you as one of my porn scouts soon. I look forward to your obedience.
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- eleven on March 21, 2025 at 9:36 am
  
  Thank you Mistress Heather, I’m doing what I can to not step out of line. Hopefully I can keep it up and help contribute where I can.
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Jessica on March 21, 2025 at 11:28 am

Well isn’t he a good boy? Mizz Geena, I forget how to do it but give him 10 of my good boy pats please.

I felt right away with point one that perhaps you’ve spent a good deal of time reading the Magazine? You are very correct about the responsibility to communicate. It sounds like Mizz Geena has you on the correct path.
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- eleven on March 21, 2025 at 11:52 am
  
  Thank you Jessica, thats very generous of you. I have been hopping around a fair few articles and posts I confess – plenty to learn and seems like a wealth of experience here.
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Mistress Meghan on March 21, 2025 at 11:34 am

Eleven. You’re off to a good start. Looking forward to your contributions. Welcome to the team.
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- eleven on March 21, 2025 at 11:52 am
  
  Thank you Mistress Meghan, very happy to be here and hoping I can help where i can.
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Barbara Wildestarr on March 21, 2025 at 11:36 am

Welcome! I just heard on our conference call that you go by “eleven,” and I was instantly intrigued. I asked Geena if there was a reason behind the name, and she said it was just your ID number with the Magazine. But did you know the significance of 11 in the world of submission?

In numerology, 11 is a master number—a number of deep spiritual insight, sensitivity, and intuition. It’s considered the number of illumination, the light bringer. But it also carries a sense of imbalance, of tension—two ones standing side by side, seeking unity, seeking direction.

And when 1 and 1 are brought together—when the ego is surrendered and the self merges with a greater purpose—11 reduces to 2.

And two, dear one, is your place. Not as a punishment, but as a purpose. The number 2 represents service, harmony, cooperation, and support. It is the number of the submissive, the devoted, the attuned.

So while 11 might be just a number to some, to me it’s the perfect sign of your path: from uncertainty and ego, toward humble, powerful devotion. You were never meant to be first. You were born to follow, to worship, to serve.
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- eleven on March 21, 2025 at 11:59 am
  
  Barbara Wildestarr, wow I had no idea. I confess I was asked what I should be called or referred to as, I hadn’t didn’t have anything currently and nothing came to mind and Mizz Geena kindly assigned me VolSub11, self shortened to ‘Eleven’. I liked it, something about it stuck and just took with me. I guess some names aren’t picked but given and perhaps thats what this is.
  
  I was very much unaware of such a significant meaning behind the number though but it does make me want to keep it even more.
  
  Thank you for sharing with me, I genuinely appreaciate it.
  
  Eleven
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Autumn on March 21, 2025 at 1:26 pm

Hmm… 11- I understand you sent a photo to Mizz Geena as part of your transfer ceremony with her. I’d like to know if you’re going to be a good boy and show the rest of the Dommes what you’re working with?
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- Mizz Geena on March 21, 2025 at 1:37 pm
  
  Autumn, such a request would now technically need to go through me – the new owner.
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  - Autumn on March 21, 2025 at 2:00 pm
    
    Yes, of course. You should put it forth for a Dominatrix rating! 🙂
    
    Oh, and welcome aboard 11
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- eleven on March 21, 2025 at 2:01 pm
  
  Autumn, still finding my feet a little hoping I haven’t bitten off more than I can handle and don’t become the infamous deer in head lights.
  
  I think my formal reply would be never say never but as noted by Mizz Geena she is my Domme so would have final say on such requests.
  
  That said, pleasure to meet you and perhaps our will paths cross in the future.
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