
The Submissive Man’s Guide to Masturbation: Turning Your Private Pleasure into Self-Training

For a submissive man, masturbation is more than just self-pleasure; it is an opportunity for discipline, training, and reinforcement of your role. This guide will take you through different techniques to improve stamina, control, and obedience to a dominant partner—even if they are not present. Through edging, timed release, and even mild self-CBT (cock and ball torture), you can transform solo sessions into purposeful exercises that strengthen your submission.
This is the first of my series of Submissive Masturbation and Self Training.
Understanding the Purpose of Your Training
Masturbation can serve multiple purposes in a submissive man’s journey. It can:
- Increase stamina and help with lasting longer during partner play.
- Reinforce discipline by adhering to a structured training method.
- Improve orgasm control so you can delay or even deny yourself as instructed.
- Heighten submissive mentality by using mental and physical techniques to remind yourself of your role.
- Enhance obedience by following a set of self-imposed or domme-given rules.
By making your solo sessions intentional, you cultivate control over your body and desires, ensuring that when your dominant partner takes the lead, you are trained to obey.
Essential Tools for Self-Training
Before diving into techniques, consider gathering the following:
- Lubrication: Use a high-quality lubricant to prevent irritation and to adjust sensitivity.
- Countdown Timer/App: A timer will help with cumming on command and edging limits.
- Cock Ring: Can assist in erection maintenance and stamina training.
- Clamps, Light Impact Tools, or Ice Cubes: If incorporating self-CBT.
- Blindfold or Earplugs: Helps heighten sensation by removing distractions.
Training Techniques for Masturbation Control
1. The Stamina Builder: Edging
Edging is a crucial technique for any submissive man. It involves bringing yourself close to orgasm but stopping before the point of no return. This builds control, enhances pleasure, and reinforces discipline.
How to Edge Yourself:
- Begin stroking at a slow, controlled pace.
- As you feel yourself approaching climax, stop stimulation entirely.
- Take deep breaths, focus on relaxing your body, and allow arousal to decrease.
- Resume when the urgency subsides and repeat this process several times before allowing yourself release—or denying it altogether as a sign of control.
Advanced Challenge: If you want to increase difficulty, use a timer. Set an interval (e.g., every 5 minutes) to check if you’re allowed to edge. The goal is to build patience and discipline over time.
2. Countdown Release: Cumming on Command
Learning to cum on command can be a powerful skill that strengthens obedience and submission. With practice, you can condition yourself to orgasm only when the countdown allows it.
How to Train:
- Set a countdown timer (start with 10-15 seconds and adjust as needed).
- As you approach climax, force yourself to hold back until the final second.
- If you go over, punish yourself with additional edging or self-CBT before attempting again.
- Over time, train yourself to only orgasm within the countdown window.
3. The Hands-Free Challenge
This method teaches patience and responsiveness to external stimuli.
How to Try It:
- Lay back and tease yourself using only contractions (clenching and releasing pelvic muscles).
- Stimulate indirectly by rubbing against a pillow or surface rather than direct hand contact.
- See how long you can endure before allowing yourself manual stimulation.
This builds arousal management and reinforces control.
4. Self-CBT (Cock and Ball Torture) for Reinforced Submission
Mild self-CBT can add an element of training that reinforces your role as a submissive.
Beginner-Friendly CBT Techniques:
- Light Slapping: Using your hand or a small object, gently slap your balls at regular intervals.
- Cooling Sensation Play: Apply ice cubes to your shaft and testicles for brief moments.
- Clamping: Use nipple clamps or clothespins on the testicles for short periods.
- Restraint: Tie your hands lightly behind your back and attempt to masturbate, making the experience more controlled.
Important: Start lightly and always ensure safety in any CBT activities. Discomfort can be part of the experience, but actual pain should be avoided.
Creating a Masturbation Training Schedule
To maximize benefits, consider a structured schedule:
- Daily: Practice edging without release.
- Every Other Day: Incorporate countdown release training.
- Once a Week: Try a hands-free session or self-CBT.
- Special Assignments: If you have a dominant partner, they may set specific tasks or rules for your solo sessions.
Masturbation as Training
Masturbation, when approached as self-training, is an excellent way to develop control, reinforce submission, and prepare yourself for deeper obedience in a female-led relationship. By using edging, countdown training, and incorporating mild CBT, you not only enhance physical endurance but also strengthen mental discipline.
So, the next time you find yourself alone, don’t just aim for a quick release—turn it into a structured exercise that makes you a better, more obedient submissive.
i guess you’re kinda an expert at this now that you are single again, eh?
All boys should be expert, married and single. Often times Ladies just want to sit back, relax, and watch, and stir up what can be most interesting and titillating conversations, among themselves and with the performer(s). Its nice to not always have to work. Penises are so much fun, and “Viewing pleasure” is part of FLRs.
Thanks for sharing levi. I should start using these techniques to make a better sub for a future Domme.