8 Rules of Patience for Submissive Men in Femdom Relationships
A Submissive Must Learn Patience
Patience is a virtue that I lack, a fact that has been forcibly pointed out to me now on more than one occasion. Accordingly, I have been directed to write this essay (by Mizz Geena) as part of my training as a submissive, so that others may benefit from my continuing education.
If you are fortunate enough to have been accepted by a Domme as her submissive you will naturally seek your Domme’s attention and control. Much like an addict, you will not be happy without her attention, and – like an addict- you will be impatient to be given more and more of her time. Stop! Do not pass Go! Proceed directly to your kennel!
Rule #1
A submissive must learn patience because, in the words of Lou Reed, “the first thing you learn is you always gotta wait.” (Waiting for the Man, Velvet Underground, 1967)
Rule #2
A submissive must learn patience because his time is not his own; it belongs to his Domme just as he does. Once you realize it is not your time being expended waiting should no longer be a problem. See Rule #3.
Rule #3
A submissive must learn patience because his Domme may spend her time as she wishes, and – as it belongs to her – his time as well. It is her right to decide how she spends her time, and with whom. She can decide if that time is with the sub, or without him.
Rule #4
A submissive must learn patience because his Domme is superior to him. He must assume she has a reason for what she does or does not do, as well as when she does or does not do it, and he must accept it even if she chooses not to share it with him.
Rule #5
A submissive must learn patience because his desires are of no consequence. Only what his Domme desires is important.
Rule #6
A submissive must learn patience because his role is to respond, not to initiate, and patience is essential so that his response to a command may happen at the appropriate time.
Rule #7
A submissive must learn patience because a thorough and adequate response is superior to a speedy but inadequate response.
Rule #8
Finally, a submissive must learn patience because any impatience where his Domme is concerned will be punished.
Patience is indeed a virtue, and you’re mastering it commendably. I am confident that by the time we conclude your online submissive training, you will have developed into a well-behaved sub, ready and equipped to serve any Domme with the respect and diligence she deserves. Your progress is a testament to your dedication and willingness to embrace the disciplines required in this journey.
Great advice! And good job on your first article for the Magazine. I know with all your poems you probably have way more content published then me, but good to see you share what you’re learning from Mizz Geena’s training!
This is a great article for me and I will endeavor to follow it. Helps me understand the relationship between a sub and his Domme. Thanks for sharing.
Aristotle, is that you? Such a handsom mature sub. Are you ready to kneel for me?
Kind of glad this popped up on my ‘Related Posts’ for what I was reading. It’s a great post and nice to see these written down. I can certainly see some that have applied to me.
But the best part is, I can also see how my thinking has changed. I will do my best to reply to every email and message I receive – without fail, I’ll try and do this promptly. I’m learning that for some they want direct, to the point. Others I’ve been granted the leniency to waffle, to chat.
There has been times when I’ve been craving a reply, needing that feedback. It 100% is an addiction that I’m hooked to, but I am also learning that I am one of maybe many, I am not their top priority- and that’s ok. If it’s a day or 2 before I get a reply yes it makes me twitch – but I know that they are living their life, doing their thing and when they are ready to engage with me, they might.
In those moments of waiting I tend to read, spot articles like this that can ground me, to learn, remind me of my purpose, my goal. Which is to serve and do better.
I need to treasure every minute of the time given to me, not just to be assigned tasks, but to get creative with them, to read my messages and comments. I’m thankful for this, every moment.
Very well put! Patience is the hardest thing I have had to learn in submission. I reflect that I am owned and it is not for me to set a timeline, but only to keep myself at the ready and obey when called!