Dear Mizz Geena

I need your help. I’m experiencing a crisis of my own making, and I’m not sure what to do.
To explain, I wrote a letter to the forum awhile ago, and it was recently published on your site. (FemdomU Forum Letter – The Punishment I Didn’t Expect: Brody’s Dominating Boss Turns Him Into a Sex Slave)

To catch up from the point of that letter – my boss’s nightly domination got more and more demented. She often ties me up, whips me, and does this as “exercise” with no concern to my pain. Actually, I think she strives on my screams.

And people are finding out. Of course her assistant thomas knows, but now some of my coworkers are knowing something is up, and there’s whispers. Worse, she’s demanding more and more of my time to my slave duties, and I’m missing out on opportunities to work on actual work projects that could be important to my career.

Things crossed my comfort level long ago. My boundaries have been crossed, and I’m more and more just her “bitch” as she calls me. I’ll maybe write more about the specifics, but I’d say that the things she has done to me probably check off most of the items in your guys’ glossary of femdom terms! She’s sadistic, and is using my body to release her pent up anger and need to destroy.

Here’s the thing – I like the degradation, I enjoy being in pain to her. It’s my honor to allow my body to be her outlet. It’s my challenge to keep my body capable of enduring everything. And when I look int he mirror and see the bruises, cuts, welts, and various other marks, I feel a sense of pride.

But, my career is suffering. Not only do I not have enough time outside of pleasing her, I don’t have the energy or motivation to succeed with my actual work. All I can think about is pleasing her.

I know the first thing you’ll suggest is communication. Well, I did that. I set an appointment early one day, and shared my feelings, concerns. I really laid it all out. She sat there, listened, and then when I was done, she took a moment before responding. She basically gave me options:

Continue what we’re doing. She’ll make sure I have a light-load of actual work so I can focus on her pleasure and not my career.

I can quit the company. She will not stand in my way of finding work elsewhere, but with my monumental fuck-up that led to all of this, there really is no professional future for me there.

I can allow her to transfer me directly to her office, working directly for her as an assistant. I’d no longer need to worry about my career ambitions – I’d basically get a paycheck with benefits and become her full-time bitch.

Help – I’m a horny young man, this is my first experience being dominated, and I am so leaning towards option 3 – the thought of fully pursuing my life as her sub is like a dream I didn’t even know I had coming true!

Sincerely
The Office Bitch

This woman is sadistic, and I can’t keep up with being pulled, literally, in so many directions.

Dear Office Bitch,

Oh, darling, what a tangled web you’ve found yourself caught in! First, let me acknowledge the complexity of your situation. You’re clearly in the throes of something deep and profound—both physically and emotionally—and the allure of fully submitting to someone so powerful and sadistic is clearly calling to you. But let’s break this down carefully, because as delicious as your submissive cravings may be, there’s a lot more at stake than just your body’s surrender to her desires.

First, Let’s Talk About Balance

Your current reality seems to be an all-or-nothing situation, where either your career or your submission thrives, but not both. The beauty of domination/submission dynamics is that, when done right, they can enhance our lives, giving us new purpose and clarity. But when the dynamic starts to overshadow your career and life goals—well, that’s where things get tricky. And that’s exactly where you are now, pulled between these competing desires.

It’s fantastic that you’ve already tried communicating. However, her response is telling. She’s left the ball entirely in your court, offering you three very distinct paths—and it sounds like she’s more interested in what you can do for her, rather than considering your well-being holistically. The question is whether you’re okay with that. So, let’s break down her options.

Option 1: Continue What You’re Doing (But Weaken Your Career)

This would mean fully surrendering to her pleasure and desires, while she lightens your workload. In essence, it’s a slow fade out of your career, as she’s already admitted that you won’t be a high-priority employee anymore. Your days will be filled with submission, and your professional ambitions will be put on ice. Now, this might seem appealing—being able to focus entirely on your duties to her—but it’s a trap.

If your career is suffering now, imagine how you’ll feel in a few years when you look back and realize you let your professional potential slip away. It’s important to think long-term here. Do you want to be dependent on her whims? What happens if she eventually grows tired of this game? Would you still have the tools and confidence to restart your career after it’s been neglected?

Option 2: Quit and Move On

This is the nuclear option, where you decide to walk away entirely, not just from her, but from the company altogether. Now, this could be an opportunity for freedom—freedom from her sadistic control, yes, but also the freedom to explore healthier dynamics in the future. You could take this as a clean slate to find a new job, maybe one that allows you to explore submission in your personal life without it derailing your career. The downside? Walking away from something that clearly thrills you on a deep, primal level could feel like cutting off a part of yourself.

Option 3: Become Her Full-Time Bitch

Ah, this is the one that’s lighting you up, isn’t it? The allure of fully devoting yourself to her as her assistant—effectively her full-time sub—must feel intoxicating. In many ways, this feels like a dream scenario for a submissive like you: no more juggling work, no more career pressure, just the pure pleasure of existing for her and serving her needs.

However, there’s a heavy reality check that comes with this. Fully giving yourself over to someone—body, mind, and soul—can be incredibly fulfilling in the right dynamic. But you’ve already admitted that your boss is sadistic, and it sounds like she thrives on using your body as an outlet for her frustrations. What happens when she pushes too far? When the boundaries (which already seem crossed) are no longer respected at all?

And then there’s your autonomy. As exciting as it may feel to surrender completely, living your life as someone’s “full-time bitch” can have severe consequences on your sense of self. It’s a slippery slope from consensual submission to losing your identity entirely.

My Advice

You’re standing at a major crossroads. Here’s where I think you need to focus: What does your future look like in five years? Can you see yourself still in this dynamic, with no real career or professional standing, depending on someone else for your entire life and livelihood? Or do you want to find a way to balance your submission with a career that can support you long-term?

If you’re leaning toward Option 3—I urge you to think hard about setting strict boundaries with her. Make sure that if you step into this role, it’s done with clear agreements on what you need, not just what she desires. And yes, while it may feel like you’re meant to be her slave, the healthiest D/s dynamics still require respect, care, and an understanding that you’re a human being with long-term goals and ambitions.

If there’s a way to combine your submission with keeping at least some professional dignity, I’d advocate for that. If there isn’t, you might want to consider walking away before you get too far down this rabbit hole.

Final Thoughts

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be a submissive. In fact, it sounds like it’s a core part of who you are. But submission doesn’t have to mean sacrificing everything else that makes you whole. It should enhance your life, not destroy your other aspirations. Think long-term, and make sure that whatever decision you make, it’s done with your future in mind—not just your immediate desires.

I wish you clarity in your decision, and I’m here if you need further guidance as you navigate this tricky path. Please consider sending our readers an update after you’ve made your decision.

All the best,
Mizz Geena