Resolution 5.1 Guidelines for Personal Interactions Between Dommes and Magazine Subs
Sponsor: Madam Nora Sinclair
Official Text of the Resolution
Whereas FemdomU Magazine operates under a structured hierarchy consisting of Staff Dommes, Guest Dommes, Staff Subs, and Volunteer Subs;
Whereas Dommes hold supervisory and command authority over Magazine subs, creating inherent power dynamics within the organization;
Whereas the Conclave recognizes that these dynamics require clear standards of consent, transparency, and personal responsibility;
Whereas FemdomU Magazine has a duty to safeguard the privacy, safety, and legal protection of all participants;
Be it resolved that the following policies shall govern personal interactions between Dommes and subs affiliated with FemdomU Magazine:
1. Staff Domme and Staff Sub Interactions
Staff Subs are encouraged to maintain active consent authorizations that clearly establish their submission to the Staff Dommes of FemdomU Magazine. These authorizations should define the general scope of acceptable interaction and authority.
Individual interactions between a Staff Domme and a Staff Sub do not require notification, provided they fall within the scope of the pre-established consent authorization.
If any interaction extends beyond the agreed-upon scope, notification to Madam Nora Sinclair is required before proceeding when possible. Otherwise, it must be reported as soon as possible, and appropriate consent acknowledgment documentation must be executed.
2. Staff Domme and Volunteer Sub Interactions
Staff Dommes and Volunteer Subs may interact privately at the discretion of the Domme, provided all communication remains consensual and appropriate to the structure of the Magazine.
However, any in-person interaction between a Staff Domme and a Volunteer Sub must first be approved by the Command Domme, Mizz Geena.
In all such cases, it remains the responsibility of the Staff Domme to notify Madam Nora Sinclair in advance.
The Volunteer Sub must execute a consent acknowledgment document prior to the meeting confirming that participation is voluntary and separate from the sub’s involvement with the Magazine.
3. Guest Domme and Staff Sub Interactions
Private communication is allowed; however, any in-person interaction must first be approved by the Command Domme, Mizz Geena.
Both parties will complete consent agreements confirming that their interaction is voluntary and separate from their associations with FemdomU Magazine.
4. Guest Domme and Volunteer Sub Interactions
Interactions between Guest Dommes and Volunteer Subs should primarily take place within official FemdomU Magazine environments such as designated live chat sessions.
If a Guest Domme wishes to communicate privately with a Volunteer Sub beyond these spaces, including arranging an in-person meeting, she must first obtain approval from the Command Domme, Mizz Geena.
Private interactions are permitted, but this step ensures that all parties remain protected and that clear consent is established.
5. Other Interactions Including Same-Sex or Group Dynamics
Any other personal interactions among members of the FemdomU Magazine community, including same-sex encounters or group interactions involving any combination of Staff Dommes, Guest Dommes, Staff Subs, or Volunteer Subs, must follow the same principles of notification and consent.
If Staff members are involved, Madam Nora Sinclair must be notified in advance.
If the interaction involves Guest Dommes or Volunteer Subs without Staff involvement, the Command Domme, Mizz Geena, must be notified.
All participants must affirm voluntary consent and, where appropriate, execute consent acknowledgment documentation confirming that their participation is personal and unrelated to their Magazine role or obligations.
6. Content is Queen
In all cases, it is the responsibility of the Domme or Dommes involved to determine if and how any interaction may be developed into Magazine content.
This includes decisions regarding documentation, publication, anonymity, and presentation. The privacy and consent of all participants must be respected at all times, and no content may be published without explicit approval from those involved.
The guiding principle remains that experiences within the FemdomU community may contribute to its creative and educational mission, but never at the expense of safety, consent, or personal boundaries.
7. General Safeguards
No Domme may imply that sexual access, personal interaction, or intimate participation is required for publication, advancement, or continued involvement with FemdomU Magazine.
All interactions must remain consensual, voluntary, and legally compliant. Consent must be explicit, informed, and revocable at any time.
While such interactions are not discouraged, these guidelines exist to provide safety rails that protect the participants and the integrity of the Magazine.
Options for Your Vote
This resolution requires a Super Majority (over 2/3 voting yes) to pass.
- YES – Adopt Resolution 5.1 and establish these guidelines for interactions between Dommes and Magazine subs.
- NO – Reject the resolution and maintain the current absence of formal policy.
- AMEND – Withhold vote and offer changes to the resolution to be considered at the next Conclave.
- ABSTAIN – Relinquish your vote on this resolution.
Note from the Sponsor
As Editor in Chief, it is my responsibility to ensure that the structure we build is not only powerful, but sustainable, safe, and clearly understood by everyone involved. The dynamics we work within are real. Authority, submission, and desire all intersect here, and without clarity, those lines can become blurred in ways that do not serve us.
This resolution is meant to define those lines with intention. Not to limit connection, but to protect it. Not to restrict authority, but to reinforce it through transparency, consent, and shared understanding.
By formalizing pre-consent structures for Staff Subs, we acknowledge the reality of ongoing power exchange while removing ambiguity. By requiring notification and documentation in other situations, we protect both Dommes and subs from misunderstandings, and we protect the integrity of the Magazine itself.
I strongly encourage each of you to read this resolution carefully, in full. Take your time with it. Consider how it applies to your own interactions and expectations. If something feels unclear or incomplete, speak up. Suggest changes. This is not something we need to rush. It is something we need to get right.
For the time being, our mode of operation will be to follow the guidelines outlined here while we refine and finalize the resolution as a Conclave.
We are building something meaningful together. Let’s make sure it is built on a foundation that is as strong as the authority we represent.
Thank you for this Nora. As we’ve grown, these real-life interactions are occuring more often, and having guidelines around those interactions should help keep issues around consent clear. I’ve had lots of time to consider and work on this resolution with you. Now I’m interested to hear the opinions of the other members.
Thank you Nora, and agree with Heather’s comments. I worked some on this resolution as well. I’ll standby to answer any questions.
This is great to have written out. I’m wondering, however, if we shouldn’t require their consent authorizations in place? I see where it mentions the staff subs are encouraged to have them, however I wonder if we should, instead, require them from both staff and volunteers?
Hi Jessica. This is a good point, and certainly, before any D/s real life interaction, one should be on file. I work with each of the subs to create these, right now on an individual basis. They are on file for the staff subs, Zeek, Levi, duckie but right now I only get these from the volunteers if there’s going to be any irl interactions.
Interesting, I don’t think I quite realized the opportunity I have here. Can I find out where all the boys live? Perhaps I should do a bit of travel.
Ha, well that’s a good question. I can answer you in private for the staff subs, volunteers have a bit more privacy so such interactions need to occur a bit more naturally, I think.
Now I appreciate the delay. Is it possible to see an example of a “consent authorization?” To explain: krissi and I are in a rather heated phase of a property dispute and at issue is going to be whether zoning codes are too general and vague. It strikes me that at some point not every little thing can be codified and that trying to do so almost guarantees quick obsolescence, which creates a dog-chasing-tail circus. Yes, I realize that my matter is very. different than Domme-Sub relationships, but what I’m getting at is that devils are in details and I’d like to see what one of these authorizations might read like.
Have to say also, again, FUM is out in front and I may bring this up with mine, thinking about things like party guests, etc.
I can tell you, the ones I’ve seen are boring. Zeek’s had so many things written in it I wouldn’t be able to keep track. Don’t do this. Not that. Feh.
Now duckie’s consent form is one we should require them all to sign… his has only ‘serious bodily injury’ in the hard no section. Otherwise, the boy is free use.
Great question – I am working on several versions that we’ll publish, but for now we have pretty simple ones – the sub is able to specifically list if he’s willing to engage in non-sexual service and/or non-sexual service. There are a few simple questions he answers, and then there is a section to share his hard limits. He also assigns himself a safeword.
I think it would be okay to publish these in the Magazine, at least each of the staff boys’ forms. Since this resolution was one of the ones Nora was covering with legal, I’ve asked this question and am waiting to hear back. I think it would make excellent content to see what these boys are into or afraid to get into!
Certainly if they begin to detail this-and-that then they’re going to be dynamic documents – changing over time because kinks evolve.
I must say that the last thing I need is more admin. A certain amount is essential, obviously; but I’d not want things that require quarterly or more frequent meetings to review the forms.
I believe that consent is something that needs to be refreshed regularly. Different dynamics lead to varying periods of time, but the sub should have regular opportunities to evaluate his consent, what it means to him, and share an opportunity for growth with his domme.
Sure, in a personal environment such as yours with subs who are husbands, etc and long-term dynamics exist, monthly/quarterly/whatever check-ins may not make sense, but I bet you’re checking in with him in smaller ways, at intervals that feel more personal. Discussing last night’s scene. Talking about how it felt when your friends did ___ to him, etc.
Hello all, I am slowly making my way back into the fold, and excited to be part of conclave again! Thank you duckie for the gentle reminders to login.
I love the idea behind this.
Zeek, Levi – you’re on notice! 🙂
Great to see you back online Barb!
I love that we have his tool to educate and expand to reach our submissives here. I love that I have started my advice column here and my blog. The subs need educated, experienced Dommes here for them. The subs need the right information, be educated properly and feel safe, consent is essential.
Geena, thank you for this. I think it makes a lot of sense, but I have a question. As you may know, I have a pre-existing relationship with Nora, and often have use of her boy duckie. From what I read here, I would need to clear this through you in the future. Perhaps we can have some sort of allowance for pre-existing situations?
Yvette, you’re correct on this. We’d been going back and forth with legal on this. We do have the following language I intend to add as an ammendment. If this resolution passes, we’ll put forward the following ammendment for the next session:
8. Pre-Existing Relationships and Ownership Dynamics
The Conclave recognizes that certain relationships between Dommes and subs may pre-exist their involvement with FemdomU Magazine or may exist independently of the Magazine’s structure, including but not limited to ownership arrangements, long-term dynamics, or established authority relationships.
In such cases, these pre-existing dynamics are respected and do not require additional approval under this policy when operating within the established bounds of that relationship.
For example, an Owner retains full authority over her submissive property, including the ability to direct, share, or involve that submissive in interactions with other consenting parties, without requiring approval from the Command Domme.
However, the following conditions still apply:
All interactions must remain consensual for all parties involved.
Any additional participants must provide clear and informed consent.
If interactions extend beyond the established dynamic to include new participants, especially those within the Magazine structure, appropriate notification and documentation may still be required.
Any interaction that is to be documented or published as Magazine content remains subject to the Content is Queen provision.
This section exists to ensure that the authority of established ownership dynamics is preserved, while still maintaining the Magazine’s commitment to safety, consent, and clarity when those dynamics intersect with the broader FemdomU community.
Love this, and love that my Zeek has clear instructions on how he is to serve the women of FemdomU. Ladies, use him well! 🙂
As my final comment, I encourage everyone to vote yes, and if we adopt this resolution, we’ll do so with my ammendment (section 8) in effect until we officially vote it in during the next session.