
Training His Tongue for Multiple Climaxes

If you’re a Domme who enjoys receiving oral sex (and really, why wouldn’t you?), then you already know that a well-trained tongue is a gift that keeps on giving. But if your submissive thinks one orgasm means he can stop licking, it’s time to correct that notion. Female pleasure doesn’t run on a single climax timeline. With the right approach, you can experience wave after wave of orgasms—and he can be trained to make that happen with his mouth alone.
This is not about porn-style tongue flicking or frantic, unfocused licking. This is about teaching obedience through devotion. Teaching him how to stay locked into your pleasure with discipline, stamina, and purpose. Let’s train that tongue properly.
Step 1: Break the “One and Done” Mentality
The first thing he needs to understand is that your orgasm is not a finish line. It’s just the beginning. Some women enjoy soft, teasing licks post-orgasm. Others crave intensity and pressure. He must learn to read your cues and stay present. The moment he stops because he thinks you’re done is the moment training begins.
Give him a simple mantra to remember: “I serve until She says stop.” Have him repeat it before each oral session.
Step 2: Condition His Mouth for Endurance
His jaw will get tired. His neck will ache. That’s normal. Train his body like a muscle.
- Drills: Set a timer and have him perform slow, consistent oral strokes for 10 minutes straight without stopping. Build up over time.
- Positions: Experiment with different positions that allow longer access with less strain. Face-sitting, side-lying, or kneeling between your legs on a pillow can all help.
- Breath Training: If he’s gasping, he’s sloppy. Teach him to breathe through his nose, stay relaxed, and keep a rhythm.
Step 3: Give Explicit Feedback
If you like circular motions on your clit between orgasms but prefer suction during the climb, tell him that. Use language that reinforces your authority:
- “Softer now. That’s right, keep your mouth there.”
- “I didn’t say stop, did I?”
- “You’ll keep going until I say your work is done.”
You may also want to implement a rating system. After each session, tell him how many orgasms he achieved for you and whether he met your expectations. If not, assign corrective tasks—such as watching training videos or journaling about what he needs to improve.
Step 4: Use Tools for Control and Focus
There are ways to help him focus more intently on your pleasure and stay in place.
- Thigh harnesses: These keep his head nestled between your legs, making escape impossible.
- Chastity devices: No distractions. If he’s caged, he’s more likely to focus on your arousal, not his.
- Noise-blocking headphones: Strip away sensory distractions. Let him drown in your scent and taste.
You might also assign “tongue workouts” during the week—pressing the tip of his tongue to the roof of his mouth for a count of 60, then repeating in reps. It’s low-key but builds stamina.
Step 5: Ritualize It
Make cunnilingus part of your protocol. Every night before bed. Every Saturday morning. After he cleans the bathroom. However you choose to integrate it, the key is consistency. When a submissive knows his regular duty is to bring you to orgasm—not just once, but as many times as you desire—his body and mind will rewire for it.
Want to take it further? Count each orgasm aloud, and make him thank you for the privilege after each one.
Step 6: Train Him to Stay Present During Your Orgasms
Some subs freeze when you cum. Others speed up or pull back. Train him to stay calm and steady unless told otherwise. You might practice giving him orgasm protocols like:
- “When I cum, I want you to hold your position perfectly still for ten seconds.”
- “During my orgasm, you will not speed up. Keep the exact rhythm unless I say ‘more’.”
Record him and review the footage together. It’s humiliating and instructional. Exactly the kind of reinforcement a good boy needs.
Final Note: Your Orgasm, Your Rules
This training isn’t about teaching him to be a good lover. It’s about teaching him to be a good submissive. He doesn’t need to understand why you want a second, third, or seventh orgasm. He only needs to know he’s not done until you are.
So lie back, take your pleasure, and teach him what obedience really tastes like.
I need, no I must commit this to memory. I consider myself very much a beginner novice in this area but very much want to improve. Both giving my wife the confidence to demand it from me, and the confidence for me to always do a better job, always learn, always listen.
Thank you so much for the vast detail (and suggestions – I’m already locked so certainly very much focused on her). Great post Mistress Heather – thank you.
eleven: go back into recent FUM articles. Find duckie’s cunnilingus tutorial. It is excellent – more than just tongue, also fingers … everything just so-so, and always different Ladt-to-Lady. All the subs in my group have been using it as a principal reference for 2 months now and there is unanimous Domme consensus that they are all much improved.
Well reminded, I believe I have that one bookmarked too, well along with others. But yes there is certainly a wealth of information here. Just need to take it all in, and remember it when it’s needed.
here’s the whole manual we put together – I’m sure we have more content published since, but the article Mistress Meghan likes is in here too.
https://femdomu.com/the-subs-oral-playbook-secrets-to-becoming-her-favorite-toy/