Dear Mizz Geena,

I have been in a passionate relationship with my boyfriend for just over a year now. Our chemistry is electric, and we complement each other perfectly as he willingly submits to my dominant desires in the bedroom. With him, I have been able to explore my deepest fantasies and experiment with various kinks, some of which I discovered through this very magazine.

But there’s one problem: my boyfriend has an intense foot fetish. It consumes him completely. He speaks of me as his Goddess and longs to show his devotion by worshipping my feet, kneeling for hours on end and lavishing them with his tongue and lips. However, as much as I try to indulge in his desires, it simply does nothing for me. I quickly grow bored and lose interest in the scene. He is open about wanting to take it further, even suggesting trampling, something I really don’t think I want to try. The truth is, in our sessions I want to spend my time doing wonderfully terrible things to his body with him at my mercy. I want to use his body for my pleasure, have him satisfy me orally or follow my commands during intercourse. However, I want our sex life to make us both happy. Do you have any advice on how I can incorporate his foot worship into our play without feeling detached and disinterested?

Sincerely,

Reluctant Foot Goddess

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Dear Reluctant Foot Goddess:

First of all, I want to applaud you for being open to exploring your dominant desires and kinks with your partner. It takes a lot of trust and communication to engage in BDSM activities, and it seems like you and your boyfriend have a strong foundation in your relationship.

It’s also commendable that you want to find a way to incorporate your partner’s foot fetish into your play, even though it may not be something that personally arouses you. As a professional Dominatrix, I have encountered many clients with various fetishes and kinks, and one thing I have learned is that there is no one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to BDSM. Every person is different, and every dynamic is unique.

With that being said, I understand your struggle with incorporating foot worship into your play without feeling detached and disinterested. While your partner may find immense pleasure and satisfaction in worshipping your feet, it’s essential to find a way for you to also enjoy it and maintain your dominant role in the scene.

As a professional Domme, I have come across clients who have certain fetishes that I am not comfortable fulfilling. In these situations, it is completely within our rights to simply decline and say no. However, in your case, we are talking about a relationship that changes the dynamic. But even in this scenario, you still have the right to refuse any specific activity for whatever reason. Just remember that your partner may seek out this desire elsewhere. If you are okay with that, then make it clear that you will not participate in activities such as foot worship, but encourage him to find satisfaction through other means. You can do some research online and find websites or even purchase a premium subscription for him to explore his kink. Additionally, if his fetish includes footwear, there are women who sell their shoes and socks online. You can also incorporate it into your sessions by playing foot-fetish porn on a screen for your partner to watch while you indulge in something “wickedly wonderful” that you enjoy doing to his body.

However, after reading your letter, it seems that you are not disgusted by the foot fetish; rather, you are bored by it and not interested in dedicating significant time to it during your sessions. Perhaps there is a way for you both to compromise – give him what he wants while also focusing on your own desires. Here are some suggestions for incorporating foot worship into your play in a way that satisfies both of you:

1. View it as a form of submissive service

In my experience, the key to making foot worship a successful and satisfying experience is to view it as a form of devoted service and submission from your partner. As you mentioned, you desire to use his body for your own pleasure, and having him worship your feet can be a powerful way for him to express his devotion and submission to you. It’s all about shifting the power dynamic in the bedroom and establishing yourself as the dominant figure, even when it comes to fulfilling his foot fetish desires. But don’t let him focus solely on your feet – use seductive verbal commands to direct him exactly where to lick, what to suck, and how to please you with his mouth. You can tease him by alternating between having him perform oral on you and then going back to sucking your toes, keeping him constantly on edge and eager to obey your every command.

2.Put limits on his foot worshiping time

You have the power to set limits on his foot-worship time, making it a reward for completing tasks you desire. Challenge him by only granting the reward if he can withstand 20 lashes with the whip or if he can bring you to orgasm within a time limit. Don’t be afraid to set the goal so difficult he can’t always achieve it. The thrill of achieving an almost-impossible task will make the reward all the more satisfying for both of you. And when he does earn his reward, assert your dominance by giving him commands and using a timer to dictate how long he may worship at your feet.

3. Use his foot-fetish as a form of punishment.

For example, perhaps he neglects to take out the trash on Tuesday night. In response, you decide to correct him by revoking his foot privileges for the next week (or however long you deem necessary). You make it clear that he will not be allowed to even gaze upon your bare feet during this time, and if he repeats the offense of forgetting to take out the trash, his punishment will be extended even further. The absence of your feet, usually a source of pleasure and adoration for him, will serve as a reminder of his mistake and encourage better behavior in the future.

4. Take Advantage and Get Pampered

Use the adoration of your feet to indulge in some much-deserved pampering. With someone so eager to lavish attention on your feet, why not make the most of it? During my time with a foot fetishist, I saved heaps of money on pedicures as I ordered him to give me the royal treatment. He would massage every inch of my feet, exfoliate and apply lotions, even paint my nails to perfection. It was like having my own personal spa day whenever I wanted. The feeling of his hands on my feet, working out any tension or knots, was pure bliss. So don’t be afraid to embrace this unique trait and let yourself be thoroughly spoiled by your devoted foot admirer.

5. Exert Your Dominance and Power

Perhaps you haven’t found a way to fully indulge in his foot fetish while also satisfying your own desires for power and pleasure. But perhaps there is a way to combine both elements into one exhilarating act – a facesitting foot job. Imagine yourself sitting firmly on his face, using your legs and feet to dominate and control him, while simultaneously stroking his throbbing cock with your skilled toes and arches. Perhaps it may be more comfortable to move from the bed to the floor, where you can alternate between sitting on his face and sitting in a nearby chair or couch, using your feet to tease and please him in different positions. With each stroke of your feet, you can feel a surge of arousal as you assert your dominance over him and send waves of pleasure through his body. Embrace this playful and powerful exchange, and let your imaginations run wild with new ways to incorporate both of your desires into one explosive experience

6. Unleash your inner aggression.

The tone of your letter suggests you may have a sadistic edge, and that your submissive enjoys crossing boundaries. If this is the case, consider using your aggression in exploring foot fetish play. Use rough language as you command him to take your foot into his mouth. Grab onto his hair with force as you push your foot inside, making him gag and squirm. Taunt him with derogatory names like “sissy” or “pervert”, heightening the intensity of the moment.

7. Don’t count out trampling

Expressing dominance through trampling can be a powerful and exhilarating experience. While I personally do not perform trampling sessions due to my larger size, I once had a sub who was deeply interested in it. To fulfill his desires, I invited a friend over who was skilled in trampling and could walk all over him while I oversaw the session. If you are open to incorporating kinky play with friends, this may be an option for your situation. However, there are other ways to compromise as well.

You do not have to immediately try standing on him like they often depict in porn. Instead, have him lay on the floor while you sit comfortably in a chair above him. Have him spread his legs around the chair so that his genitals are easily within reach of your feet. Then, with careful control, alternate between light kicks to his balls, gently squeezing his cock between your toes or both feet, or even placing your entire foot onto his package. It is important to pay close attention to his reactions and stop if he shows signs of discomfort. The goal is to inflict pain without causing any lasting damage. With trust and communication, this can lead to a mutually enjoyable experience for both parties involved.

8. Ignore him while he indulges in his pervy kink!

Indulge in the ultimate act of dominance by using JOI (Jerk Off Instruction) and CEI (Cum Eating Instruction) on your foot fetish-obsessed submissive. This is a perfect choice for when you’re not feeling particularly into his kink, or perhaps as a way to fulfill his desires before turning the focus onto your own pleasure. Take a seat in your favorite armchair, surrounded by the comfort and luxury of your domain. Engage in activities that bring you joy – read a book, listen to music through headphones, or browse FemdomU Magazine on your phone. Your attention is not on him, but on yourself. Suddenly, order him to kneel before you and begin masturbating. As he reaches climax, demand that he cum onto your feet. When he’s finished, command him to use his tongue to clean up every last drop of his release from your delicate skin. For added effect and lasting memories, snap some pictures with a Polaroid instant camera – a wise investment that will eliminate any worries about digital copies and provide your sub with an immediate keepsake as a reminder of how thoroughly you dominated and degraded him. Not only will these photos serve as future spank-bank material for him, but they may also help to extend the time between sessions involving his foot fetish as he relives the humiliating experience over and over again.

Set Boundaries and Communicate

As with any BDSM activity, communication is key. It’s essential to set boundaries and discuss what is and isn’t okay when it comes to foot worship. If there are certain things that make you uncomfortable or uninterested, make sure to express them to your partner. You can also establish a safe word or gesture to use if things become too much for either of you. Make sure to find out what his particular tastes are so you can tailor your participation in activities that will provide him with maximum satisfaction.

Remember, BDSM is all about consensual and safe exploration of desires and fantasies. If something doesn’t feel right to you, it’s important to speak up and make adjustments.

Experiment

Lastly, I want to emphasize the importance of experimenting and finding what works best for both you and your partner. Every BDSM dynamic is unique, and what might work for one couple may not work for another. Don’t be afraid to try new things and adjust as you go.

I hope these suggestions help you and your partner find a way to incorporate foot worship into your play without feeling detached and disinterested. Remember to have fun and be open to exploring new things together. Communication, trust, and a willingness to explore are the keys to a fulfilling and satisfying BDSM dynamic.

Best of luck to you and your boyfriend on your journey of BDSM exploration.

Sincerely,
Mizz Geena