To Share or Not To Share? Expanding Control Over Your Submissive Husband
Dear Mizz Geena,
For the past three years, my husband has also been my contractual property. I make all decisions for him—what he wears, when he speaks, what he does with his body, and, of course, his orgasms. Our dynamic is deeply fulfilling for both of us, and I have never doubted my control over him.
But now, I’m considering something new—sharing him. Up until this point, he has been exclusively mine. However, I have a few friends who I know would enjoy the experience of having him at their disposal for fun, and I can’t deny that the idea excites me. I also know he would do it eagerly, not because it’s his desire, but because he lives to please me.
What I don’t know is how I will feel. I have no doubts about my authority or his loyalty, but will I be jealous watching him pleasure other women at my command? Or will it be another layer of control—another way of proving that he is mine, even in the hands of another?
I want to expand our dynamic, push my ownership further, but I also don’t want to risk introducing something that could shake what we’ve built. How does a dominant woman navigate this? Is this a natural evolution of control, or am I opening a door I might regret?
Your insight would be invaluable.
Sincerely,
Completely in Control… for Now
Dear Completely in Control… for Now,
What a deliciously powerful position you find yourself in. You have built a dynamic where your husband belongs entirely to you—his body, his pleasure, his choices. Now, you’re standing at the threshold of something new: the possibility of expanding his servitude beyond just yourself. The idea of lending out what is yours can be intoxicating. But as you wisely recognize, it’s also something that must be approached with care.
Your instincts are correct—this is an evolution of control, but whether it is the right evolution for you depends on how you feel about extending your ownership in this way. The first question you must answer for yourself is whether you are prepared to see him used for another’s pleasure, not as an act of independence on his part, but as an extension of your will.
One way to explore this is by easing into the experience with small tests. Rather than throwing him into the hands of your friends immediately, introduce the idea incrementally. You could start with commands that reinforce your control over his interactions with others—having him kneel for them, serve them in non-sexual ways, or simply exist in a submissive role under your supervision. Watch how you feel in those moments. Does it heighten your power? Does it make you crave more, or do you feel the flicker of discomfort?
If you find the dynamic thrilling, then you can gradually escalate. You might give him over in limited, structured ways—perhaps instructing him to perform acts of service for them but keeping any sexual acts reserved for your direct command. This allows you to remain in control of every aspect while observing your own emotions before making a deeper commitment.
The beauty of this is that nothing changes your ownership. No matter who touches him, uses him, or commands him, he still belongs to you. The ultimate proof of his devotion is that every action he performs for another is, at its core, an offering to you. If that excites you—if that reinforces your power—then you may find sharing him to be not only a natural progression but an enhancement of your dynamic.
However, if you test these waters and find yourself feeling unsettled, that is equally valid. The beauty of complete control is that you never have to share unless it truly serves your pleasure. This is not about what he wants, or what others desire—it is about what deepens your fulfillment. If the idea of watching him serve another’s pleasure stirs discomfort rather than arousal, then you have your answer.
No matter what you choose, your authority remains absolute. If you decide to move forward, make sure that it is done in a way that maintains the clear understanding that he is being lent, not given, and that his use by others is only ever a reflection of your control. You may also consider establishing rules to reinforce this—perhaps ensuring that he must report back to you immediately after any act of service, reaffirming that it was done only because you allowed it.
At the end of the day, this is not about him. It’s not about your friends. It’s about you—your power, your pleasure, and your comfort in what you own. Expand his use only if it excites you. If it does, then revel in the next stage of your domination. If it does not, then hold him close and remind him: his body is for you, and you alone.
Powerfully yours,
Mizz Geena
I have quite a bit to say about this. It’s been a significant part of my and krissi’s life for more than 15 years.
But I’m traveling. Composing on a mobile phone is a pain.
So this is a placeholder. I’ll be back at ‘ya when home at the desktop.
At the beginning of my relationship with PS, we had planned to bring in another female, but under a completely different dynamic.
I am 100% certain that PS would be more than happy to be lent out to another female or shared in some fashion, but for privacy reasons this is nearly impossible for us. But even beyond that, I’m currently 100% against the idea of another woman touching him with the exception of the wonderful woman who thoroughly waxes PS in his areas I want to eventually be completely hairless.
But that’s just for my situation. If you think you can handle it, I suggest going for it
CM
I had hoped to respond before now but haven’t created time.
This evening I hope to post a blow-by-blow account of my husband and long-time submissive, krissi, being shared with 7 others. 5 married – their husbands having serviced me multiple times – 1 divorced, and 1 widowed.
Please read it to get a sense of my group’s dynamic.