The FemdomU WHIP
Chastity 101 – Discovering Focus Through Control
Assignments 9 and 10 felt different from everything earlier in my training. By this stage, the cage no longer felt like something I had to “endure.” Instead, it started to feel like structure around my day. What surprised me most during these longer holds was how...
Wedding Guest Afterparty
Okay. Don’t judge us. My girlfriend and I are very kinky. We don’t exactly turn it off just because there’s cake and a DJ involved. This was a wedding weekend. Lots of drinks. Lots of dancing. A hotel block full of questionable decisions. And somehow, by the end of...
what i do when Madam has a client
people ask me what i do when Madam is with a client. these are men who pay her for domination, structure, and very specific training experiences. my role changes depending on the man and what she wants from the session. Madam gave me permission to talk, in general...
A Formal Dinner and a Butler’s Test
We hosted a formal dinner last weekend and it was one of my favorite kinds of gatherings. Kink friends attended, though not strictly a femdom crowd. You could say a wide array of interests and dynamics were represented, which made the energy in the room lively and...
20 Applications. 5 Followed Instructions. 0 Matches.
I tried the Burned Haystack dating method. Apparently, the haystack burns slower than expected. I left the application open a month longer than I originally said I would. Over that time, I received twenty applications. Only five people followed the instructions....
K’s Suggestion
Had my buddy “K” over last night. Annie had already turned in early, so it was just the two of us hanging out in the living room. We met about a year ago when he reached out to me online. Turns out he’s local here in Portland and part of the kink community. That’s...
Owning My Desires
I am just going to say it plainly. Part of being a strong, sexually dominant woman is being comfortable enough to admit what you enjoy. Confidence is not only about control. It is also about honesty with yourself. I enjoy a controlled threesome. I like the...
Keep a Scene Bag for Emergencies
Whether you are playing at home, at an event, or in a hotel, having a basic scene safety kit within reach is smart practice. Include gloves, condoms, quality lube, a safety cutter for rope, antiseptic wipes, and basic pain relievers. If you use specific toys or...
When They Find Out
There’s a big reason I keep my magazine work somewhat anonymous from my daily life. Not because I’m ashamed. Not because I’m hiding. But because once people know, everything changes. Last weekend I was at a party. Normal crowd. Drinks. Music. Laughing. And somehow,...
Chastity 101 – The Day I Stopped Counting the Hours
There’s a moment in longer chastity holds where time changes. At first, you count. Then you adjust. Then… you settle. Assignments 7 and 8 were the first time I stopped feeling like I was “doing a task” and started feeling like I was living inside it. Assignment 7 –...













Hello Chanel Lacey, welcome to FemdomU. You seem to be joining at an exciting time as the team is growing…
Pute, good read. I liked the points about getting the right fit, comfort, and hygiene. I’m learning about chastity myself,…
Levi, I really enjoyed this article about Clara Lemlich. What stood out to me most was that she did not…
Mistress Heather, I liked this article. What stood out to me was how structure can slowly slip when things become…
Mistress, I really liked this. The part about homework actually helping a slave become better at serving. I think it…