Resolution 7.07 The FemdomU Safety Checklist
Sponsored by NurseDomme Jessica
Official Text of the Resolution
Whereas FemdomU is establishing guidelines governing in-person interactions involving the Dommes and submissives associated with the Magazine, the Conclave recognizes its responsibility to promote informed consent, responsible preparation, and appropriate safety practices.
The FemdomU Conclave hereby establishes the FemdomU Safety Checklist as an official health and safety resource to be reviewed by Dommes and submissives before participating in any intense BDSM scene.
The checklist shall address, at minimum:
- Informed and voluntary consent
- Planned activities and anticipated intensity
- Hard limits, soft limits, and conditional permissions
- Medical conditions, injuries, disabilities, and physical restrictions
- Prescription and nonprescription medications that may affect the scene
- Allergies and sensitivities
- Alcohol, cannabis, recreational drug use, fatigue, illness, and other factors that could impair consent or increase physical risk
- Safewords and nonverbal safety signals
- Procedures for pausing or ending the scene
- Emergency contacts and access to medical assistance
- Necessary first-aid supplies and emergency-release equipment
- Physical and emotional aftercare
- Transportation arrangements following the scene
- Follow-up communication concerning delayed injuries or emotional distress
The Health and Safety Editor shall prepare the initial checklist and may develop additional sections addressing activities that require specialized precautions. She shall also be authorized to recommend revisions as medical guidance and FemdomU policies develop.
Use of the checklist shall be expected whenever FemdomU staff members or volunteers arrange an intense in-person BDSM scene through their association with the Magazine. It shall also be published as an educational resource for FemdomU readers and Academy students.
Completion of the checklist shall not replace proper training, direct communication, informed consent, or responsible judgment. It shall not certify that an activity is safe. Every participant retains the right to modify, postpone, or cancel a scene and to withdraw consent at any time.
No Dominant authority, command, standing agreement, or submissive obligation shall override a participant’s safeword, withdrawal of consent, or need for medical assistance.
Options for Vote
- YES – Establish the FemdomU Safety Checklist under the terms of this resolution and direct the Health and Safety Editor to prepare it for publication and use.
- NO – Do not establish the FemdomU Safety Checklist at this time.
- ABSTAIN – Take no position on this resolution.
Passage Threshold
Super Majority (75%)
Abstentions shall not be included when calculating whether the required percentage has been achieved.
Note from the Sponsor
As FemdomU develops guidelines for situations in which the Dommes and submissives associated with the Magazine may interact in person, we must be equally serious about the responsibilities accompanying those interactions. An intense BDSM scene should never begin with everyone relying on assumptions, incomplete disclosures, or enthusiasm alone.
A submissive may be eager to please and reluctant to mention a medication, old injury, or limitation that he fears will disappoint the Domme. A Domme may have considerable experience with an activity while knowing very little about the particular body placed under her care. Both participants have an obligation to exchange relevant information before the scene begins.
This checklist is not intended to turn an intimate experience into paperwork for its own sake. It is intended to ensure that the necessary conversation occurs while everyone is calm, alert, and capable of making sound decisions. Consent, limits, medications, allergies, safewords, emergency procedures, aftercare, and transportation should be discussed before a problem occurs, not reconstructed afterward.
Female authority carries responsibility. A Domme who accepts control during an intense scene must prepare herself to exercise that control competently. A submissive remains responsible for providing accurate information, communicating when something feels wrong, and using his safeword when necessary. Silence is not proof that a scene is safe, and obedience does not require concealing a medical concern.
FemdomU should be able to hold its practices up as an example of responsible Femdom BDSM. I ask the Conclave to adopt this resolution so our members, volunteers, students, and readers have a clear standard for preparing before intense play begins.
Jessica, I like this idea as a guideline for scenarios within the Magazine community, but it would work well for a framework toanyone in the Femdom community, ore BDSM really. I think this should pass and we can make a great piece for the contracts/safewords section.
Thank you Geena. Yes, as we’ve talked it could eventually be part of the Contracts and Session prep apps and make a wonderful online resource!
As someone who is new to all of this, I absolutely love this idea. In the heat of the moment people can forget things that they normally wouldn’t. This woild be a great way to make sure everyone is safe.
I strongly support this resolution. Safety must remain at the forefront of everything we teach, particularly when so many readers discover Femdom through our content and may use that guidance when preparing for their first scenes. A clear checklist gives both Dommes and subs a practical way to discuss essential matters before excitement takes over.
Jessica, I appreciate that this does not treat safety as the Domme’s responsibility alone. A Domme must prepare carefully and understand the authority she accepts, but a submissive must also disclose relevant medical concerns, communicate honestly, and speak up when something feels wrong. Establishing that shared responsibility is exactly the kind of example FemdomU should provide.
Jessica, as you know you created something similar for me when I began my intern program. It was a big help when I was first in command of a sub, by myself, and had nobody else’s authority to rely on but my own. To be honest, I still use a version today that I’ve made updates to over the years, especially when working with a new sub. Thank you for this – I to strongly support a vote for yes here.
I defer to Jessica on issues of safety, though I don’t think I’ve ever hurt a sub beyond repair. I did institute a better contract and nda with any of my onsite worshippers and had Jessica help draft and review it – she’s great. So if she thinks we need this, I’m a resounding yes for her!
Yes, we don’t want to get in trouble for breaking our toys.
I have not yet taken advantage of using any of the Magazine subs IRL. Are you ladies doing this?
Maybe the Dommechat is a good idea- we can talk about them without them knowing!
I was thinking the same thing, about using the boys in real life. Yes that is what the idea of the chat is, we can talk without them knowing.
I support this. The point gets hammered on here plenty but it is a significant responsibility for Dommes. We put far to much into developing Good Boys and can’t afford for absentmindedness, regardless of cause, to nullify it.
This is a great idea – I know I could have used this early on, and it would still make a great reminder.